P.O.A. question regarding my dying elderly parent

[BlakJacksinn]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Wisconsin

My mother has 6 months to live. I'm her p.o.a. and want her to die at home but my sister want's her to die in a nursing home and is trying to get the department on aging involved to try and stop me from taking her home. My mother was living with me for the last two years before becoming ill. My sister is just bitter because I caught her stealing from my mother when she was her p.o.a. and has a hard time being around me because of shame and guilt. My mother would never want to die in a nursing home. My question is do I have the final say so as to where my mother goes?

Please help. Time sensitive.

 

[ecmst12]

Does your POA cover medical decisions or only financial? If it is a medical POA, then you get to make the decision. If not, then you and your siblings are equal and will have to get a court involved if you can't agree. What does your mother want? Can you afford the help that you will need to care for her at home?

 

[BlakJacksinn]

Yes it does cover medical and yes her insurance covers home hospice 100% and my mother wants to come home where she'll be comfortable and around family all day and night.

Thanks. That's what I thought. We discussed this and that's why people assign p.o.a's. How else will there wishes be met.

 

[tranquility]

If mother's competent, she decides. If she gave you an irrevocable medical POA, you decide, unless she is incompetent. If incompetent, if a durable medical POA, you decide.

 

[BlakJacksinn]

Ya it's all settled. My sister had a change of heart. When she left work she had a life changing experience. When she left work some big amazon woman covered in tattoos rolled up on her on a Harley in the parking garage & said something about something & showed her something & said "you don't wanna see me again". I thought that was kinda weird. I don't know? Oh well.

I really thank everybody for the advice & input. This site NEVER fails.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

Somewhat reminiscent of my fathers secret cremation and burial. His ashes were in the ground for 4 months before my sister found out he was not sitting in the freezer at the coroners office.

 

[Antigone*]

Somewhat reminiscent of my fathers secret cremation and burial. His ashes were in the ground for 4 months before my sister found out he was not sitting in the freezer at the coroners office.

 

[Antigone*]

Ya it's all settled. My sister had a change of heart. When she left work she had a life changing experience. When she left work some big amazon woman covered in tattoos rolled up on her on a Harley in the parking garage & said something about something & showed her something & said "you don't wanna see me again". I thought that was kinda weird. I don't know? Oh well.

I really thank everybody for the advice & input. This site NEVER fails.

Blak, my heart goes out to you. Not sure if you believe in the Man upstairs, but it looks to me like a divine intervention of the best kind

His grace is sufficient.

~tigi <3