parental responsibility for defamation spread by kids

[evecarson]

What is the name of your state? Indiana

I have just gone through a divorce after 25 years. I have 2 teenage daughters that I am becoming increasingly alienated from. After digging and probing I have come to find that my daughters were spreading that I had beaten them, something not true. My ex also has furthered some ugly innuendo. The girls lived with ex during separation when some of these accusations were spread. Is it possible to sue for defamation against ex for things spread at the time by minor children? I am considering hiring a PI to determine the extent of things that were spread publicly verbally and in writing.
I uncovered evidence that suggested my ex may have molested the girls, something they all deny and authorities will abide by what is said. I'm certain at this point that something happened there, but need to approach things based on what has been said about me. It's been a nightmare.

 

[JETX]

Is it possible to sue for defamation against ex for things spread at the time by minor children?

Since anyone can sue practically anyone else over almost anything, the answer is, yes, you can sue your ex. However, you have ZIP chance of winning. Also, do you really want to force your children to have to testify against one of their parents in court??

I uncovered evidence that suggested my ex may have molested the girls, something they all deny and authorities will abide by what is said. I'm certain at this point that something happened there, but need to approach things based on what has been said about me. It's been a nightmare.

WHOA!!! Here you are, all pissing and moaning, about allegations your ex MAY have made against you.... and you are doing the EXACT SAME THING you claim your ex did to you!!!
Wow, you do need help.

 

[evecarson]

don't presume to judge

to jetx,

Finding tangible evidence of a hideous activity such as molestation is certainly good reason for someone to devalue, defame, and discredit another, in order to hide the truth. I've been trying to address the issue with appropriate help for quite some time. What a hideous situation for 2 young women to have to smear their own Mother to keep a horrible trauma hidden. I am trying to now approach the situation from what has been spread about me, which took place beginning after I found a letter to God and took it immediately to get help. Please don't presume to judge without sufficient information. I've turned here to seek what options I have. Lies impact a lot of people and can be very destructive to more than just the target and that is the case here. Since my separation, I have discovered a lot of bizaar and disturbing things about my ex that a few years ago I would said no way. Molestation may well be a repeat of history here and I don't wish to see it happen yet again for my girls' future. Getting to the truth so a healing process can begin seems for more responsible and loving to me than the girls living a lie and having them eaten up inside as human beings.

 

[MandyD]

IF you have tangible proof of molestation, why the hell are you coming to this site soliciting ways to sue for defamation when you should be taking that "tangible evidence" to the authorities? IF your daughters have been molested by their father and you have proof and still do nothing, that makes you as guilty as he IMO.

 

[evecarson]

ihave taken it to authorities

I have taken it to several authorities. It's not the kind of thing teenage girls want anyone to know and have denied it. The authorities and I have to accept that until they are ready to deal with it. I am trying to find whatever crack in the concrete wall that has been set up and if that means having myself investigated for what has been spread about me, I did not beat up my daughters, and causing discomfort about what consequences they face may be it, I don't know.
The book victimized daughters by Liebman goes into great detail how incest victims are reluctant if ever to open up about their experience and how the Mother-Daughter bond is a tragic result of such a crime. It is not unusual for the daughter to bond closely with the offender. I've been trying to figure this nightmare out for a long time. These are my girls and they still need help.