skittles972001
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
I don't know how much information is needed to answer my question so here is the gist of what has been going on since August 2008.
My fiance's ex-wife has spent the last 4 months in an inpatient rehab facility for prescription drug addiction. This is her 4th attempt at rehab in the last 5 years. While in rehab 2 hours and four counties away, she was indicted on four counts of Deception to Obtain Dangerous Drugs. While we have not had access to the court papers related to this criminal case, we believe that she did not enter rehab to seek treatment but to try to help her chances in defending these charges against her. She was released from rehab on November 26th after being offered and declining an extension, granted Intervention in Lieu of Conviction in her indictment case and was put on probation. We know that as part of her probation she is ordered to get a job and to attend IOP (an Intensive Outpatient Program).
My fiance filed for and received an emergency suspension of their shared parenting agreement after his five-year-old daughter's mother stepped up in the program and insisted on enforcing their 2/2/3 parenting schedule while she was living at the rehab facility (again, 2 hours and 4 counties away). While this suspension order was in effect he filed for the termination of the shared parenting plan and requested to be made full residential parent. A court hearing was scheduled for early November where the shared parenting remains in effect yet in a different form - the mother only has visitation with the child every other Monday and Tuesday and every other weekend and my fiance's child support payments were suspended. At this court hearing a parenting investigation was ordered. Both parents are scheduled to meet with the investigator in January, my fiance at 9:30am and his ex-wife the same day at 1:30pm.
My fiance and I have been trying to prepare for this interview for weeks now. We feel that we need to prove two things to this investigator. 1) Why the shared parenting agreement can not continue. The child's mother continues to play mind games and makes compromise very, very difficult. We have emails, text messages, journal entries describing phone calls and face-to-face contact and MySpace messages from throughout this past year that back up this claim, about everything from doctor's appointments to preschool. 2) Why my fiance is the better residential parent. We have some tangible evidence of this (the mother's criminal justice activities, the child's medical records about a certain incident that occurred when the child was ill in October, school records) as well as emails, text messages, etc. that show, in our opinion, that the mother does not always act in the best interests of the child.
My question, essentially, is this. Are we missing anything? Is there something we should do that we are not thinking of? Is there other evidence we could bring with us? We do not know much about this process and want to be as prepared as we can so that the investigator and the court truly understand the difficulty and the importance of this situation. We do not know, other than the parental interviews, what this process entails and if there is anything we can do to help. I want to make a point of mentioning that we are not interested in trying to have this process be a mother-bashing session but we do want to obviously get our point across that this woman is not stable and is very deceptive and manipulative (qualities, I might add, that are part of her addictive personality). Any advice would be very, very much appreciated.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I don't know how much information is needed to answer my question so here is the gist of what has been going on since August 2008.
My fiance's ex-wife has spent the last 4 months in an inpatient rehab facility for prescription drug addiction. This is her 4th attempt at rehab in the last 5 years. While in rehab 2 hours and four counties away, she was indicted on four counts of Deception to Obtain Dangerous Drugs. While we have not had access to the court papers related to this criminal case, we believe that she did not enter rehab to seek treatment but to try to help her chances in defending these charges against her. She was released from rehab on November 26th after being offered and declining an extension, granted Intervention in Lieu of Conviction in her indictment case and was put on probation. We know that as part of her probation she is ordered to get a job and to attend IOP (an Intensive Outpatient Program).
My fiance filed for and received an emergency suspension of their shared parenting agreement after his five-year-old daughter's mother stepped up in the program and insisted on enforcing their 2/2/3 parenting schedule while she was living at the rehab facility (again, 2 hours and 4 counties away). While this suspension order was in effect he filed for the termination of the shared parenting plan and requested to be made full residential parent. A court hearing was scheduled for early November where the shared parenting remains in effect yet in a different form - the mother only has visitation with the child every other Monday and Tuesday and every other weekend and my fiance's child support payments were suspended. At this court hearing a parenting investigation was ordered. Both parents are scheduled to meet with the investigator in January, my fiance at 9:30am and his ex-wife the same day at 1:30pm.
My fiance and I have been trying to prepare for this interview for weeks now. We feel that we need to prove two things to this investigator. 1) Why the shared parenting agreement can not continue. The child's mother continues to play mind games and makes compromise very, very difficult. We have emails, text messages, journal entries describing phone calls and face-to-face contact and MySpace messages from throughout this past year that back up this claim, about everything from doctor's appointments to preschool. 2) Why my fiance is the better residential parent. We have some tangible evidence of this (the mother's criminal justice activities, the child's medical records about a certain incident that occurred when the child was ill in October, school records) as well as emails, text messages, etc. that show, in our opinion, that the mother does not always act in the best interests of the child.
My question, essentially, is this. Are we missing anything? Is there something we should do that we are not thinking of? Is there other evidence we could bring with us? We do not know much about this process and want to be as prepared as we can so that the investigator and the court truly understand the difficulty and the importance of this situation. We do not know, other than the parental interviews, what this process entails and if there is anything we can do to help. I want to make a point of mentioning that we are not interested in trying to have this process be a mother-bashing session but we do want to obviously get our point across that this woman is not stable and is very deceptive and manipulative (qualities, I might add, that are part of her addictive personality). Any advice would be very, very much appreciated.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?