Parenting Plan/Birthday question

[Kristyna]

What is the name of your state? WA

I'm asking this on behalf of my sister-in-law.
Her parenting plan states the parents shall each hve the child half a day on his birthday. His birthday lands on a Friday and he is in school.
She is trying to work with the father to have him take their son all afternoon/evening on his birthday, but getting him back four hours early after his weekend visitation on Sunday so she can have a party for him then. The father will not budge on Sunday, but still wants him on Friday.
She called her lawyer but he is on vacation.

Any suggestions?

 

[Zephyr]

the father is under no obligation to return the child early on sunday and will not get into any trouble for refusing to do so.

 

[xKellyx]

the father is under no obligation to return the child early on sunday and will not get into any trouble for refusing to do so.

Take the kid out of school and give daddy the first half of the day. I ALWAYS missed school on my birthday.

or

Just tell daddy that he can have the first half of the day and she the second. This is reasonable since it about to be his weekend anyway.

If he trys to take this to court, he is going to have to explain why he was such a jerk.


OR

tell mommy to have the birthday party on another day, and then there is no more bs about it.

 

[LdiJ]

Take the kid out of school and give daddy the first half of the day. I ALWAYS missed school on my birthday.

or

Just tell daddy that he can have the first half of the day and she the second. This is reasonable since it about to be his weekend anyway.

If he trys to take this to court, he is going to have to explain why he was such a jerk.


OR

tell mommy to have the birthday party on another day, and then there is no more bs about it.

I would just have the birthday party the weekend before.

 

[CJane]

I would just have the birthday party the weekend before.

Yup. And then I would go through my court order and find all the other unclear/vague/poorly written crap and file for a modification to clear it all up.

My court order states that 'mother will have each child on their respective birthdays from 9am until 9pm EXCEPT FOR ANY TIME THE CHILD MAY BE IN SCHOOL. So, I'm thinking I can't 'pull them out' for the day (though oldest child will never actually HAVE school on her Bday).

I would recommend, if y'all want to share the actual birthday, you either specifically state times, alternate years, or something else that is worded in a specific and inarguable manner.

 

[MamaLou]

Good point

Yup. And then I would go through my court order and find all the other unclear/vague/poorly written crap and file for a modification to clear it all up.

My court order states that 'mother will have each child on their respective birthdays from 9am until 9pm EXCEPT FOR ANY TIME THE CHILD MAY BE IN SCHOOL. So, I'm thinking I can't 'pull them out' for the day (though oldest child will never actually HAVE school on her Bday).

I would recommend, if y'all want to share the actual birthday, you either specifically state times, alternate years, or something else that is worded in a specific and inarguable manner.

For some reason, the people writing these seem as though they are LOOKING for more business, so they make things as ambiguous as possible in the beginning.

 

[Kristyna]

Just tell daddy that he can have the first half of the day and she the second. This is reasonable since it about to be his weekend anyway.

If he trys to take this to court, he is going to have to explain why he was such a jerk.

That's what I told her

I guess you have to be experienced in these things before hand to realize how specific the parenting plan has to be.

Thank you!

 

[stealth2]

Have the kid's party the w/e before or after. This is a no-brainer, hon.

(though oldest child will never actually HAVE school on her Bday).

???

 

[CJane]

???

Her Bday is Christmas Eve.

 

[stealth2]

LOL gotcha.

 

[bononos]

Just saw this one, but had to comment.
What school is open on Christmas Eve Day?
Mine never was, my kids never are?

 

[stealth2]

Just saw this one, but had to comment.
What school is open on Christmas Eve Day?
Mine never was, my kids never are?

Which was the point - CJane's daughter will never have school on her bday.

 

[nextwife]

I have a sibling whose birthday is Christmas Day. She obviously NEVER had her B'day party on her actual B'day. It was usually done in early January after her friends returned from out of town.

My kid's birthday is adjacent to the Labor Day weekend, so her B'day parties are never done on the weekend they should be, because so many kids and family are unavailable. It's no biggie!

 

[trustknow1]

Our agreement has the split the b-day "do it the hard-way" stipulation too.
I have organized/paid for every party for 10 years now. Mom shows up for 1/2 to make her standard "I forgot my camera" speech, and she is gone. Everybody is happy.

We do the same as nextwife stated:
The standard drill for all the kids is that the B-day parties are always on the week-ends. (usually Sat). My daughter's b-day is ****** Luther King Day, so we do it the week-end following the holiday week-end. (because all the kids are gone on the holiday wk-end.). They are always held on the week-ends so all the kids can come. I have never see one that was not. What are you going to do......ask all the kids to cut school on a Friday?????

and**************we have never had "separate parties", for daughter's sake. It means alot to her (and for her pride in front of friends), to see both mom and dad at her party (even though mom only stays 1/2 hour). Anybody that loves their kid can withstand a 1/2 hour of playacting, but that's just my opinion....

 

[haiku]

I didn't know any kid still had a party on the exact day of thier birthday anymore, I thought most people always had it on a close weekend......