IOWA
I may not have grounds for a case here but here goes.
I'm from Canada and moved to NC after meeting a man online. I also had the opportunity to apply for a green card (which I had been working on for 4 years) but the relationship assisted in making my decision to move south.
Man in question (We'll call him.. Dick) professed that he was at the end of a relationship with " Bonnie". Much to his dismay (he said), she dropped the I'm pregnant bomb on him in March. Communiction continued between him and I. We met in May, he came to spend some time with me in July, and we fell in love.
He wanted me down there badly, and I wanted to as well - I loved the guy after all. So, when the opportunity to go came up, I quit my job, sold my home, moved.
I arrived in NC at the end of August and he had still not resolved issues with now 7 months preggo Bonnie. She still occupied "his" house (he moved there alone, said she bribed him into giving her a place to stay for a couple weeks while her friend was out of town.. she never left), so he put me up at his mothers house.
After a week there, he disappeared back to his own house where Bonnie was. He made no attempt to communicate with me, and I ended up leaving after he said he would come back but didn't. I didn't get out of state before Dick pleaded for my return and come to get me.
Things were great for a month, until the birth of the child, when once again he disappeared... his responsibility to the child was paramount, he said. Nowhere did he feel he was wrong for not maintaining any kind of contact with me. I left once more for Iowa.
3 weeks and multiple conversations later, Dick flew out to bring me back to NC. He promised love and marriage (which was no different than before) and we happily went back. We arrived in NC on Sunday night (late) so got a hotel room, as Bonnie was still in the house but had threatened him that she was leaving. Up until this point, he maintained that he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me... don't worry.. nothing to worry about...Monday morning was the last time I saw him. Wednesday morning he sent me an email that he loved Bonnie and was ending it with me because his ongoing mental issues and depression, coupled with the kid and his guilt made a relationship between him and I impossible.
Here's my question:
This man was put on medication for depression and anxiety on Tuesday (13th). He has admitted to being depressed before. He has destroyed my life to some degree, as I believed his pledges of a home, love and family but in the end he has caused me an incredible amount of distress, mental anguish and suffering, not to mention the loss of income from not being able to know where I am from day to day, not to mention leaving my life behind because my love for him tipped the scales on the move south.
He has not admitted any wrongdoing whatsoever because everyone else is at fault. He promised me the world, I believed him, he ripped it out from under me on most inhospitable terms, when I was 2500 miles from home and family, not to mention another country.
Questions??? Thoughts???? I may not have anything here but I needed to ask.
I may not have grounds for a case here but here goes.
I'm from Canada and moved to NC after meeting a man online. I also had the opportunity to apply for a green card (which I had been working on for 4 years) but the relationship assisted in making my decision to move south.
Man in question (We'll call him.. Dick) professed that he was at the end of a relationship with " Bonnie". Much to his dismay (he said), she dropped the I'm pregnant bomb on him in March. Communiction continued between him and I. We met in May, he came to spend some time with me in July, and we fell in love.
He wanted me down there badly, and I wanted to as well - I loved the guy after all. So, when the opportunity to go came up, I quit my job, sold my home, moved.
I arrived in NC at the end of August and he had still not resolved issues with now 7 months preggo Bonnie. She still occupied "his" house (he moved there alone, said she bribed him into giving her a place to stay for a couple weeks while her friend was out of town.. she never left), so he put me up at his mothers house.
After a week there, he disappeared back to his own house where Bonnie was. He made no attempt to communicate with me, and I ended up leaving after he said he would come back but didn't. I didn't get out of state before Dick pleaded for my return and come to get me.
Things were great for a month, until the birth of the child, when once again he disappeared... his responsibility to the child was paramount, he said. Nowhere did he feel he was wrong for not maintaining any kind of contact with me. I left once more for Iowa.
3 weeks and multiple conversations later, Dick flew out to bring me back to NC. He promised love and marriage (which was no different than before) and we happily went back. We arrived in NC on Sunday night (late) so got a hotel room, as Bonnie was still in the house but had threatened him that she was leaving. Up until this point, he maintained that he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me... don't worry.. nothing to worry about...Monday morning was the last time I saw him. Wednesday morning he sent me an email that he loved Bonnie and was ending it with me because his ongoing mental issues and depression, coupled with the kid and his guilt made a relationship between him and I impossible.
Here's my question:
This man was put on medication for depression and anxiety on Tuesday (13th). He has admitted to being depressed before. He has destroyed my life to some degree, as I believed his pledges of a home, love and family but in the end he has caused me an incredible amount of distress, mental anguish and suffering, not to mention the loss of income from not being able to know where I am from day to day, not to mention leaving my life behind because my love for him tipped the scales on the move south.
He has not admitted any wrongdoing whatsoever because everyone else is at fault. He promised me the world, I believed him, he ripped it out from under me on most inhospitable terms, when I was 2500 miles from home and family, not to mention another country.
Questions??? Thoughts???? I may not have anything here but I needed to ask.
