Physical attack

[Moondance]

I got into a beef with my sister this weekend, anyway, I wanted to talk to her on the phone and vent out my frustrations over her s##ty attitude, but she kept hanging up on my face... so, I went to her boyfriend's house, cuz she was there, I get there, and she comes out - of course telling me to get the f--k outta there, and things of the sort - and I told her I went there to talk since she kept hanging up on me, yada yada yada.. Well, she wanted to push me out so I pushed her back, pretty soon she WANTED to kick my ass, I guess, so that didn't go over very well because I wouldn't let her, anyway, I guess she decided she had had enough of my ****; even though I couldn't get in a word, cuz she's a fast talker, believe it or not, and then, her boyfriend jumps in and grabs me and tells me "if you ever touch her like you just did, I'm gonna kill you, I love her so much" :::violins appeared::: and he just went on... He grabbed me by the wrists and bruised and scratched me cuz I was wearing bangles on one hand and a watch on the other..I guess, it was no big deal...

QUESTION: should I do something about it?? Can I do anything??

Now, my thing is this, I wasn't doing anything to her that she wasn't doing to me, if you catch my meaning... and as I see it I was defending myself, since she was going to, I guess, kick my ass, so is it self-defense against my sister? I would say it is, and what does this guy have to do with me, believe it or not, he is much stronger than I and has no business in "family" business...

 

[dsut]

Well Moondance, there really isn't much you can do. She already exhibited an agressive attitude towards you on the phone, you only made matters worse when you went to confront her. I'm not a lawyer and not a cop, but I am quite sure they will point that out if you decide to go through them for whatever it is you are seeking.

Put it behind you. Live your life and let her live hers.

 

[Moondance]

Thank you dust (?)...

I don't mind about live and let die... My question was about what to do about her boyfriend - not what to do about her...

Thanks anyway

 

[Colt]

It's a package deal. Lawful occupant of premises (your sister)can order you to leave.
Has right to defend self if attacked. Owner of premises who comes to aid of lawful occupant who believes you are doing an assault on his guest will probably get medal from Rotary and your head goes in basket at city gate. Leave it alone.

 

[Tracey]

You're an idiot & should be thanking your lucky stars she didn't have you arrested for trespass, harrassment, and assault. She made it very clear she didn't want to talk to you, you went to her bf's house to force a confrontation, refused to leave, then when she tried to use lawful force to eject you, you attacked her. As the initial aggressor, you aren't allowed to claim self-defense at all. She was acting lawfully in self-defense. Her bf was acting lawfully in defense of her. YOU are the only one who committed a crime & if you're stupid enough to try to press charges against her, the DA will end up prosecuting YOU. The only thing you should consider doing is sending her a written apology for whatever you did to piss her off in the first place. Don't bother unless you really mean it, though. An insincere apology will just inspire her to file charges against you. Don't mention assaulting her - you don't want to make the DA's case for her.

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This is not legal advice and you are not my client. Double check everything with your own attorney and your state's laws.

[This message has been edited by Tracey (edited July 26, 2000).]