Please help a confused person...

[jhpointman]

My girlfriend and I were to be married in Jan. and she lives in Oklahoma and I live in Texas. The situation is this. She has a 5 year old son and for some reason her mother has gotten some idea that it is her child. Her mother has even told me that my girlfriend can leave whenever she wants however she will not be taking her son with her. I own my own business here in Houston and I have never been in any trouble so there is no reason for her to do that and my girlfriend has not been in any trouble at all as well. She has assured me that there is nothing that her mother has on her to give her the power to make such a demand and taking her son from her. So my question is this. What would make her mother think she could do such a thing and is there any truth in her threats? Now the marriage has been called off because she thinks she will loose her son if she moves. Also my girlfriend does have sole costody of her son and her mother doesn't have any costody of him at all... What should I do and is there any way that I could prove to my girlfriend that her mother will not get her son? I very much appreciate any help with this matter...

Thanks again,
Joe...

if this helps any my age is 26 and she is 25...

 

[OhBullship]

Is there a father involved somewhere? Are you sure the the mother doesn't have guardianship?

 

[jhpointman]

The childs father is in jail and has not seem him for about 4 years and the child doesn't know who he is. There isn't a name on the birth certificate as far as a father goes. Only her name as his mother. I have asked more than once if her mother has any rights to him at all and I have been told that she does not have any custody to him.

 

[OhBullship]

If you want to help her feel secure that her mother is not going to take the child, you could pay for a consultation with a lawyer where she lives. Your girlfriend should be free to move, as long as there isn't something you don't know about going on.

I would think she would be doing everything she could to get away from her mother if she is like that.

 

[jhpointman]

I feel the same way about what you said. I would think she would be doing anything and everything to get out. Her Grandparents and I still talk on the phone just about every night and I was informed that there was some kind of threat made either towards myself, my girlfriend, or her son. She couldn't tell me who the threat was made towards because my girlfriend wouldn't say.

Now she lives in a small town in Oklahoma and I have seen first hand that her mother knows everything that goes on there and even if I paid for her to consult with a lawyer I'm just not certain what would happen if her mother found out about it...

 

[stealth2]

Well, nothing is going to happen if she just caves in to her Mommy all the time. Either she's a Mommy's girl or Mommy has something on her that she's not telling you. Either way, you may be best off walking away.