GLASSJAWGURL20
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What is the name of your state? california
i have a pretty sad situation and i need some help. My daughter is two years old. her father and i were previously on good terms, and now it is getting ridiculous. we have been apart since she was a month old, and we have a notarized "custody contract" that states every other day we would have our daughter, and holidays being odd and even for each parent. We also stated that neither of us would seek child support from either party. it has been two years since this contract has been updated, and since then, we have switched to two days that we have our daughter and her father now makes three times more a month than i do, and i have had the same job for years making 11.50 and he makes close to i believe 25 to 30 dollars an hour. I am struggling to make ends meet, and since we had that contract in place stating that neither of us could seek child support, i would like to see if i could receive child support from him now that he makes more.. i am totally clueless in this subject. he owns his own home.. i do not. he also insinuates he is better than me, and i have tried to keep it between the two of us for our daughter, but he is becoming ridiclous. I also am not good at arguing, and he uses that to his advantage. I have since got into a relationship with someone who is from southern california, and would like to relocate there. it also states that we could not take her out of the state in the contract. there are many good job opportunities for me in southern california, and her father refuses to come up with an agreement for a half time custody between the two of us. i plan on marrying this man and want to relocate to southern california, as his job is there. what can i do? what do i need to do ? please help!! i dont know if any of this is feasible...
i have a pretty sad situation and i need some help. My daughter is two years old. her father and i were previously on good terms, and now it is getting ridiculous. we have been apart since she was a month old, and we have a notarized "custody contract" that states every other day we would have our daughter, and holidays being odd and even for each parent. We also stated that neither of us would seek child support from either party. it has been two years since this contract has been updated, and since then, we have switched to two days that we have our daughter and her father now makes three times more a month than i do, and i have had the same job for years making 11.50 and he makes close to i believe 25 to 30 dollars an hour. I am struggling to make ends meet, and since we had that contract in place stating that neither of us could seek child support, i would like to see if i could receive child support from him now that he makes more.. i am totally clueless in this subject. he owns his own home.. i do not. he also insinuates he is better than me, and i have tried to keep it between the two of us for our daughter, but he is becoming ridiclous. I also am not good at arguing, and he uses that to his advantage. I have since got into a relationship with someone who is from southern california, and would like to relocate there. it also states that we could not take her out of the state in the contract. there are many good job opportunities for me in southern california, and her father refuses to come up with an agreement for a half time custody between the two of us. i plan on marrying this man and want to relocate to southern california, as his job is there. what can i do? what do i need to do ? please help!! i dont know if any of this is feasible...
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Next there are a few new things to be considered in move-aways in this state. (Been there- done that) Next issue is that, after 2 years and the considerable income difference, it's "reasonable" that you file modification of child support and you will get what is "fair" according to a % of his income. The only hitch I see is that you should be willing to pay transportation for visitation, or at least a portion of, to allow the child to see the father. It's only fair and also you'll be able to afford it after all the support is calculated and you are married.
