What is the name of your state?N.C. I received an email today that my ex-boyfriend and his "new fiance', second one in 10 months hired a mediator of their choosing and also a child psychologist for my 4 year old. I feel I need a lawyer and have consulted one and sent them an email that I would be using a lawyer thru the courts and do not choose to go with a mediator. I have taken care of my daughter solely with father having weekend visits all this time with no child support and now that he has this new fiance that can't have children, he is pushing to have my child Tues-Friday and me have her Sat-Mon, Of course I will not agree to that and I feel that the only way I can get thru this is with a lawyer and courts. Can anyone tell me if I HAVE to go to the mediator or do I have the choice of a lawyer and court? I'm so afraid, and this has just happened this morning. Please HELP!