Twelvebcmb
New member
North Carolina
I recently filed a termination of parental rights against my ex. Long story short hopeless drug addict meth,heroin,pills,needles you name it. She has a cycle where she disappears for months at a time shows back up at her parents house and then makes demands to see her daughter usually calling at odd hours then when I respond I never hear back. This pattern has continually repeated for around 4 years. I have hard evidence even videos audio Facebook posts in her own words backing up everything I say literally as thick as a phone book! Multiple times where she admits to dealing meth etc. So I filed the TPR after my lawyer advised me to do so after I sought legal advice when I got a motion to modify our original custody order from my ex(I’ve had custody for 3 and a half years) she never showed for 4 straight mediation meetings and just basically let it go. But then her and her family filed a motion of “dismissal” and that is the problem I am running into. After talking to the ad litem she informed me that they just changed the law and now that if a motion of dismissal is filed after a TPR is filed it shows that basically she “cares” and neglect and abandonment is no longer an issue because the motion proves she tried to “be there” basically in a roundabout way pardon my lack of legal knowledge and terminology. The ad litem warned me that the judge could basically have a “knee jerk” reaction and see the dismissal was filed and then throw out my TPR case and that it would revert back to the original motion of modification of custody they filed! Is there no way around this? I’ve spent close to $8000 trying to defend me and my daughter from this happening!!! I got proof that she was using meth 2 days before our court date and she signed papers under oath saying she didn’t even have a drug problem on that day October 7 my evidence is from October 5. Is all my hard work gathering evidence for nothing? Our court date is December 3rd will the judge just toss aside the obvious right thing to do because of her “dismissal”? The ad litem also informed me she checked into rehab after talking to her and this would be the umpteenth time and we know her parents bullied her into doing it. Does she just get to go years without pitching a single cent to raising my daughter not showing any care about my daughters well being using drugs to the extreme consistently for my daughters entire life and then file a dismissal and check into rehab and all of a sudden it’s all better? We all know she is just doing the bare minimum she thinks she has to and will continue to use once she thinks the coast is clear! She has also lost custody of her other child due to her behavior and I have remarried and my wife has every intention on adopting if the termination was to be successful but it looks like that’s not an option now! Please help!!!! There must be some way around this!!!!
I recently filed a termination of parental rights against my ex. Long story short hopeless drug addict meth,heroin,pills,needles you name it. She has a cycle where she disappears for months at a time shows back up at her parents house and then makes demands to see her daughter usually calling at odd hours then when I respond I never hear back. This pattern has continually repeated for around 4 years. I have hard evidence even videos audio Facebook posts in her own words backing up everything I say literally as thick as a phone book! Multiple times where she admits to dealing meth etc. So I filed the TPR after my lawyer advised me to do so after I sought legal advice when I got a motion to modify our original custody order from my ex(I’ve had custody for 3 and a half years) she never showed for 4 straight mediation meetings and just basically let it go. But then her and her family filed a motion of “dismissal” and that is the problem I am running into. After talking to the ad litem she informed me that they just changed the law and now that if a motion of dismissal is filed after a TPR is filed it shows that basically she “cares” and neglect and abandonment is no longer an issue because the motion proves she tried to “be there” basically in a roundabout way pardon my lack of legal knowledge and terminology. The ad litem warned me that the judge could basically have a “knee jerk” reaction and see the dismissal was filed and then throw out my TPR case and that it would revert back to the original motion of modification of custody they filed! Is there no way around this? I’ve spent close to $8000 trying to defend me and my daughter from this happening!!! I got proof that she was using meth 2 days before our court date and she signed papers under oath saying she didn’t even have a drug problem on that day October 7 my evidence is from October 5. Is all my hard work gathering evidence for nothing? Our court date is December 3rd will the judge just toss aside the obvious right thing to do because of her “dismissal”? The ad litem also informed me she checked into rehab after talking to her and this would be the umpteenth time and we know her parents bullied her into doing it. Does she just get to go years without pitching a single cent to raising my daughter not showing any care about my daughters well being using drugs to the extreme consistently for my daughters entire life and then file a dismissal and check into rehab and all of a sudden it’s all better? We all know she is just doing the bare minimum she thinks she has to and will continue to use once she thinks the coast is clear! She has also lost custody of her other child due to her behavior and I have remarried and my wife has every intention on adopting if the termination was to be successful but it looks like that’s not an option now! Please help!!!! There must be some way around this!!!!
