Please In Need Of Help!!!

[williamescobedo]

HELLO MY NAME IS WILLIAM 20 YRS OF AGE AND I HAVE ONE SON.

HERES MY SITUATION. MY G/F AND I WERE DATING AND EVERYTHING LIKE A NORMAL COUPLE. WE DECIDED TO HAVE A BABY. BY FOUR MONTHS WHEN SHE WAS PREGNANT SHE TOLD ME I DONT FEEL THE SAME ABOUT YOU (ME). SO I THOUGHT SHE WAS LIKE THAT BECAUSE OF THE PREGNANCY SO IGNORED HER, A FEW MONTHS LATER WE WERE BACK TO NORMAL, AND THEN TWO MONTHS LATER WE WERE BACK TO NORMAL, BUT THEN AGAIN 1 MONTH BEFORE SHE HAD OUT BABY SHE SAID THE SAME THING AGAIN TO ME, SO THIS THIS TIME I TOOK IT SERIOUSLY. SHE KICKED ME OUT OF THE APARTMENT SO I LEFT. THEN SHE HAD OUR BABY AND THINGS WENT BACK TO NORMAL, AND THEN ONCE AGAIN SHE SAID IT TO ME AGAIN, NOW WITH ALL THIS IN MIND SHE THREATENED TO PUT CHILD SUPPORT ON ME, AND I ASKED HER WHY, BUT SHE GAVE ME NO RESPONSE, I NEVER NEGLECTED MY CHILD, HE EATS, HAS CLOTHES, EVERYTHING A BABY NEEDS, I ALSO TAKE HIM TO MY HOUSE SO THAT HE CAN SPEND THE NIGHT WITH ME.

OK ALL OF THIS SAID AND DONE,
IF SHE TRIES TO PUT CHILD SUPPORT ON ME WILL SHE WIN THE CASE?

EVERY WEEK I GIVE HER $100.00 FOR THE BABY.

WOULDNT SHE LOSE BECAUSE SHE IS THE ONE WHO LEFT ME EVEN BEFORE THE BABY WAS BORN?

 

[TNBSMommy]

Put simply, yes, she will probably win. From what I understand, the money you are giving her, will most like be considered a gift. However, she can only get CS from the date filed, from my understanding. In my situation, I got it dating back to when we weren't together, I don't know why that is, but if you look around this board enough, almost everyone will tell you, it can only be received from the date filed.
As for who left who first, the judge doesn't really care. They just want the child taken care of...
Good luck!

 

[usmcfamily]

The fact that you are providing support without an order will look good for you in court (and is the right thing to do anyway....). BUT you MUST either give it in the form of a check or get a receipt (they can be handwritten) signed by her acknowledging receipt of the money. (be sure to get bank records showing she cashed your check if you go that route)......this will be the only way you can prove your case on the monetary issue as otherwise she could simply claim you never gave her anything. The items you are purchasing for him will not likely be considered as anything but gifts.
When she files her support case the support will be dated by that date (in most states) and not to the child's date of birth. If the child is yours you will have to pay so yes she will "win" (I prefer to think of it as the child winning but that is just me).....if you aren't sure the child is yours when the case is filed you can contest paternity and a paternity test will be done - if the child is proven to be yours you will have to pay for the testing in addition to whatever support is ordered but if it isn't your's you have saved yourself years of pain and expense....so that decision is yours to make as to whether or not you want to contest it. As to whom left who that doesn' t matter a darn bit because regardless of that the fact is this child needs to be supported and you, as the father, are responsible to see to meeting half the needs of the child........the fact that she left you doesn't change that!
I don't mean to sound like I am coming down on you - I realize you are young and new to all of this but you are a father now and that is what matters. I would also urge you to start visitation proceedings - while she is allowing you to see the child now she can stop at any time and there will be nothing you can do but start a court case then so why not protect the relationship you are building with this baby now.
Good Luck and God Bless