Bekhunter24
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I live in Florida and divorced my husband in 2017. Prior to that we had two children together, and I was also awarded sole custody in the divorce.
fast-forward to 2020 when he finally got his act together and graduated a rehab program and stopped getting arrested, etc. and I gave him 50-50 split custody because he deserved it. 2021. I checked my own self and treatment after a doctor, put me on pain medication due to a car accident. and he filed emergency orders against me and has literally fought me every day trying to break me down. 2023 got really bad for me and I hit every bit of rock bottom. I do not try to deny it and I was not a part of the kids lives because , I wasn’t mentally or physically. During this time, my boys have lived with their grandmother, my ex-husband‘s mom. Even though my ex-husband has a house a job a vehicle and loves to throw his authority around over what my son doesn’t do. He just doesn’t want any responsibility at the end of the day. Yet , even though June of this year, I went to treatment for four months after three years of fighting this addiction. He still won’t let me see my kid. Except his public football games. Legally our court agreement states we share them week to week, even though we have not been following it .
he stated through my child because he refuses to talk to me for the last year and a half that I need to have a drug test done and show him proof that I completed my treatment center. I paid $135 to go to court approved laboratory and have a full panel testing done. and I sent him over my certification from graduating from treatment centers that I went to this year. In response to this, he stated I need to have a drug test done every week, and I need to show him an actual paper proving I completed this program not just something printed off the computer. my son is upset and so am I because I’m not gonna get to see him tomorrow for Halloween nor can we just hang out at the house and watch TV & actually be a mother and son again. I truly don’t know what to do. I know that I’m in the beginning stages of rebuilding my life, but I have a stable, structured home with my parents. I am clean and I have a job. I don’t know how to enforce some sort of visitation here. I think it’s just absurd because like I said he’s not even living with my ex-husband.
I am not trying to take him for my full week at a time. I’m so open to starting the slowly so everyone’s comfortable with it especially him. However, my ex is actually upsetting my son, causing him to have issues in school again and acting out because he never knows if he’s gonna get to talk to me or see me again Because of his dad. I don’t know what to file. I don’t know how I should address my ex-husband. I just truly don’t know what to do so I’ve pretty much frozen in all this emotion from this. Please give me any advice. I’ll have I appreciate it more than you’ll ever know.
fast-forward to 2020 when he finally got his act together and graduated a rehab program and stopped getting arrested, etc. and I gave him 50-50 split custody because he deserved it. 2021. I checked my own self and treatment after a doctor, put me on pain medication due to a car accident. and he filed emergency orders against me and has literally fought me every day trying to break me down. 2023 got really bad for me and I hit every bit of rock bottom. I do not try to deny it and I was not a part of the kids lives because , I wasn’t mentally or physically. During this time, my boys have lived with their grandmother, my ex-husband‘s mom. Even though my ex-husband has a house a job a vehicle and loves to throw his authority around over what my son doesn’t do. He just doesn’t want any responsibility at the end of the day. Yet , even though June of this year, I went to treatment for four months after three years of fighting this addiction. He still won’t let me see my kid. Except his public football games. Legally our court agreement states we share them week to week, even though we have not been following it .
he stated through my child because he refuses to talk to me for the last year and a half that I need to have a drug test done and show him proof that I completed my treatment center. I paid $135 to go to court approved laboratory and have a full panel testing done. and I sent him over my certification from graduating from treatment centers that I went to this year. In response to this, he stated I need to have a drug test done every week, and I need to show him an actual paper proving I completed this program not just something printed off the computer. my son is upset and so am I because I’m not gonna get to see him tomorrow for Halloween nor can we just hang out at the house and watch TV & actually be a mother and son again. I truly don’t know what to do. I know that I’m in the beginning stages of rebuilding my life, but I have a stable, structured home with my parents. I am clean and I have a job. I don’t know how to enforce some sort of visitation here. I think it’s just absurd because like I said he’s not even living with my ex-husband.
I am not trying to take him for my full week at a time. I’m so open to starting the slowly so everyone’s comfortable with it especially him. However, my ex is actually upsetting my son, causing him to have issues in school again and acting out because he never knows if he’s gonna get to talk to me or see me again Because of his dad. I don’t know what to file. I don’t know how I should address my ex-husband. I just truly don’t know what to do so I’ve pretty much frozen in all this emotion from this. Please give me any advice. I’ll have I appreciate it more than you’ll ever know.
