What is the name of your state? What is the name of your state? vt...I have a disabled son. he lives with dad. He has autism. There is an IEP set up for our son. He is graduating middle school going into high school. I have always been involved with him throughout his life, and his needs. In the last month I received nothing on meetings or the transitional meetings to new school. I called his school case manager asking when the meeting was going to happen for high school transitioning? I guess I thought it was during the summer vacation time since I had not heard anything or recieved anything by mail in the last 3 months. This is when I found out my name was completely removed as a team member of his IEP. She apologized and said it was a mistake and would fix it. I received a letter yesterday which stated this "I am enclosing a copy of all meeting notes taken this year in case you might have missed one. ( omg) I am also enlosing another corrected IEP because there were a few errors. ( again omg) As for the IEP, my leaving your name off the initial page (initial page?) was not remotely personal, nor did it reflect a lack of acknowledgement of you as his mother". (yes it did). Well, I checked the "CORRECTED" version and am offended that the IEP team members list is only his father and other team members, then under in that list in bold is "others with knowledge of the child" is my name, and grandmother. I have been on the team for the IEP for the last 15 years. And another thing, the grandmother I found has been going and making decisions for his schooling without me being there, and his dad changes information and puts my son into programs other than school without telling me. I am angry and heartbroken that I missed out on so much, including the time frame to send in pictures for his graduation scrap book. I was completely excluded from all of this due to the case workers so called technical mistake. All the scrap book pictures are of my son with his dad and his grandmother. none of me or my son's other siblings. I asked if I could send some in, they said it was too late, since this dvd scrap book is completed. Again, another apology. I am in shock and numbed by these events. I have called the high school and now requesting seperate IEP meetings. I was told they would need a release signed by my ex for me on my son's information since he has full custody, and they don't know who I am. I called my son's grandmother and she said that the school is involving her in my son's graduation rehearsal so that he knows what he needs to do. She told me I could go, (gee, thanks), and it was at 10:45, I then found out it is really at 9:45. I am not a mom who has been uninvolved. I am the one whom set up the teams, I made critical decisions for his education and fought day and night for his services before he went to live with his dad (due to his aggression towards the babies). Plus the scheduling for summer schooling, respite, and camp for him is during the weeks in the summer of my visitation time with him. I cannot change anything since it will affect his progress now. I feel like someone just ripped my heart out. Can I go back to court and ask for more say in my son's education so this never happens again???? This just seems so wrong Thanks Faith
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