Power of Attorney-Planning for Mom's future

[chatterweb]

What is the name of your state? CA

My mom has just been diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease.

Mom lives alone in a town home. We live across town. We would move in with her but her place is too small for our family. We do have a spare room here for her so she can move in before going to a NH.
My question is should I get POA at this time?
I already have POA for her retirement pension, which we signed for last week.
Mom is doing ok alone but I worry about her future, as she refused to buy Long Term Care insurance when I insisted she should do so.
My thoughts are to pay for NH by using proceeds from selling her property and that money can go to a special trust?
This will be a few years away, but I like to plan ahead as much as possible, and I want her to be taken care of.
I already have an appt for us to see an elder law attorney next week.
Is there anything else I should ask the attorney, or get in writing while my mom is still semi lucid?
Thank you.What is the name of your state? CA

 

[garrula lingua]

You need a POA for her financial affairs, with an alternate chosen in case something happens to you.
You also need a POA for medical decisions (with an alternate).
Do a Directive for Physicians, aka Do Not (or Do) Resusitate/administer artificial means, etc.
You need a will for those sentimental/financial items which she wishes to pass along.
Someone should ask her about (or better, document) her wishes regarding burial services/cremation - what, where, services, song, eulogy, people to be notified, etc.

You also need a checklist for all her affairs - credit cards, revolving accts, etc to close them, any utility co., to close them, combinations to locks, safe, identity of all $ accts, email accts, info where will, birth, and marriage certificate is stored, etc.

Regarding NH costs, see an Elder Law attorney for further advice.

PS: we all need this, at any age.

I don't know if Mom is competent enough to execute the above, but it should be done ASAP. See an EL atty if there is a problem regarding competence. A guardianship will also accomplish the above, but it is often lengthy and can be expensive.

I'm sorry for your troubles. Do take care of yourself - this is very difficult for you.

 

[BlondiePB]

What is the name of your state? CA

My mom has just been diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease.

Mom lives alone in a town home. We live across town. We would move in with her but her place is too small for our family. We do have a spare room here for her so she can move in before going to a NH.
My question is should I get POA at this time?
I already have POA for her retirement pension, which we signed for last week.
Mom is doing ok alone but I worry about her future, as she refused to buy Long Term Care insurance when I insisted she should do so.
My thoughts are to pay for NH by using proceeds from selling her property and that money can go to a special trust?
This will be a few years away, but I like to plan ahead as much as possible, and I want her to be taken care of.
I already have an appt for us to see an elder law attorney next week.
Is there anything else I should ask the attorney, or get in writing while my mom is still semi lucid?
Thank you.What is the name of your state? CA

Have the attorney petition for conservatorship over mom. She's not competent to sign any estate papers, including a POA.

 

[chatterweb]

Thanks for the advice.
What are typical of the fees for these services?

 

[BlondiePB]

Thanks for the advice.
What are typical of the fees for these services?

Fees vary among attorneys. Interview several and ask them about reimbursing your retainer & costs when appointed conservator.