Pre-School denied by father

[Viktorya]

What is the name of your state? OH

My son currently attends an excellent pre-school that has done wonders with his education. My son is 3 1/2. In just 3 months he has learned the entire alphabet, can count to 22, knows all of his shapes and colors. I wanted him to continue to attend the pre-school during my husbands summer visitation if my husband is working anyway. I wanted our son to continue to attend while my husband is working to prepair our son for kindergarten but my husband refuses. What are my legal rights since I feel that this is in the best interest of our son. My husband wants his girlfriend to watch our son while he's working since she does inhome day care instead of sending him to pre-school. (In the process of a divorce)

 

[stealth2]

He's allowed to do that.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Developmentally, children learn more through play and social interaction at 3.5 than through preschool. I only had 1/2 year of kindergarden but my mother who didn't graduate from high school taught me my alphabet and times tables through 3, my father taught me other skills necessary for life on a farm, like shooting a rifle, I graduated early from high school and eventualy earned a doctorate. My oldest child didn't attend preschool and stayed home while I did daycare, he could read anything he picked up so we sent him to kindergarten at 4 yo, he also has advanced degrees. Preschool may do more for your ego than for your child's intellectual development. If your child was doing well before they will do well after a summer vacation. Perhaps your objection is more about WHO is providing the daycare.

 

[nextwife]

By first grade, the "flash card kids" who already knew this stuff early, and the later learners all end up at about the same level anyway. My kid, for example, because she spent her early years in an orphanage and didn't even start to talk until age three, is all caught up, and starting third grade (youngest third grader, BTW) and at the same level as her class, many of whom are wealthy kids who had nannies and Montessory educations from early on.

Dad can't tell you what to do with your son during youyr time, and dad can use his time as he wishes.

 

[Viktorya]

Reponse

My objection is not WHO but HOW. While he is in the care of the inhome daycare provided my son is put in a room to watch TV while she curses and smokes all day which Pre-School does field trips, book reading, educational activities, painting, arts & crafts, etc. I've watched the inhome day care provider take a 4 year old little girl, grab her by her hair and pull her in the house and scream at her because she wet her pants and than put her outside in the middle of winter until the little girl agreed to go on the pot instead of her pants. I have tried to call child services on her but they just do not care. Other parents have pulled thier children away from her because they were coming home with bruses and such. She uses profanitied, smokes in front of the children, yells at them and pays no attention. As a concerned parent, I refuse to subject my son to that situation.

 

[LdiJ]

My objection is not WHO but HOW. While he is in the care of the inhome daycare provided my son is put in a room to watch TV while she curses and smokes all day which Pre-School does field trips, book reading, educational activities, painting, arts & crafts, etc. I've watched the inhome day care provider take a 4 year old little girl, grab her by her hair and pull her in the house and scream at her because she wet her pants and than put her outside in the middle of winter until the little girl agreed to go on the pot instead of her pants. I have tried to call child services on her but they just do not care. Other parents have pulled thier children away from her because they were coming home with bruses and such. She uses profanitied, smokes in front of the children, yells at them and pays no attention. As a concerned parent, I refuse to subject my son to that situation.

How close do you live to dad? Are you available during the day to provide child care yourself?

 

[stealth2]

If it is his visitation time, you may not have much of a choice.

 

[Viktorya]

Reply

We live 5 minutes apart and I work full time.

 

[LdiJ]

We live 5 minutes apart and I work full time.

Well...then I don't see that there is going to be anything that you can do unless his girlfriend can be proven to be legally unfit. If you were available during the day you might have the option of "right of first refusal"...but since you aren't...its really his choice who provides child care while he is working.

I understand that you don't like it (and quite frankly with the situation you describe I would also prefer that my child be in preschool)....however I don't think that there is anything you are going to be able to do about it.

 

[Viktorya]

Thus my frustration. Child services won't help, Courts won't do anything, Lawyer wants money to fight. I swear the law does not work in the favor of the law abiding citizens that want the best for their child in keeping them safe but in the favor of the people that couldn't care less and do what ever they want without so much as any form of consiquese for their actions other than a slap on the wrist. I have lost all faith in our juditial system and government that they would allow such things to happen and not even intervene. I appologize about my spelling errors. Spelling is not one of my stong suites.