Pregnant, never married - chances of NO Custody/Visits for him?

[newmom2b]

What is the name of your state? CO

My former boyfriend (46yo) and I (39yo) have no criminal records and are stable professionals with no other children. We only dated for 4 months, never lived together. After only 6 weeks he began having trouble controlling his temper in short angry outbursts. These outbursts became more violent each time, eventually he was physically abusing me at 2-1/2 months. Always claimed he would never do this again immediately afterwards. When he wasn't angry things were fantastic, too good to be true.(?) I became pregnant in Sep, did not know yet. He had a violent outburst, beat and strangled me. I left the next morning and contacted police immediately after work that night. They photoed the bruises and are charging him with Felony 2nd deg Assault. 2 weeks later I found out I am pregnant.

His temper is out of control frequently! I don't see supervised visitation as being in the best interest of this child. I want him to have nothing to do with this child.

What can I do to prevent him or minimize any visitation he has with this child?
Do I have to put his name on the birth certificate?
If I move now to another state how will that affect his ability have visitation? Which states are less lenient with Assaulters?

 

[Boxcarbill]

What can I do to prevent him or minimize any visitation he has with this child?

Answer: If as and when he seeks to establish paternity, then you can bring all this to the court's attention as to why it is in the best interest of the child that visitation be supervised.

Do I have to put his name on the birth certificate?

Answer: No

If I move now to another state how will that affect his ability have visitation?

Answer: He (or you) will have to establish paternity. If, as and when, one or the other of you file to establish paternity, then your move will have no effect. All 50 states are part of the United States and all states must recognize valid orders from a sister state. Jurisdiction will lie in the state where the child resides.

Which states are less lenient with Assaulters?

Answer: No one is going to bother looking up the criminal statutes on assault from all fifty states and comparing the range of punishment in all fifty states and then guessing as to what the district attorney is his particular county will offer on a plea bargain or what a jury will access as punishment. And absolutely no one can tell you what every family judge in every family law courtroom through out the country would do!

 

[stealth2]

You don't get to shop around for the best deal by moving. Unfortunately, his abuse of you does not mean he'll be a bad father - in the eyes of the court.

If he files for paternity, visitation, etc, there will be little you can do to cut him out of your child's life.

 

[newmom2b]

Why would there be little I could do to cut him out if the court's find him guilty of Assault against the child's mother? There are national studies that show when one assaults/abuses their partner there is a 50 - 70% chance they will abuse the child/ren. Do the courts not consider this?

I am being offered a Permanent Restraining Order against. This would seem to have a large impact on his visitation until the child is older. How would this usually be handled?

Thanks!

 

[newmom2b]

Also, if he begins asking for child custody/visitation can I get support for the expenses incurred during pregnancy?