pro se guidance & advice

[co2sarg]

What is the name of your state? MISSOURI

Have already filed motion for custody pendente lite but no date has been set to hear this motion. Custody case hearing set for early Dec.

New and even more disturbing info has recently come to light regarding the living situation of children that absolutely cannot and should not wait until Dec. Should I:

1-Submit Amended motion for custody pendente lite to include additional information?

2-Ask judge to interview minor children in chambers and instruct current custodial parent as to the consequences of 'coaching' the children in the amended motion? (more specific verbage here would be VERY helpful)

3-Request hearing on pendente lite motion?

This is really consuming my entire life just knowing all that I know about how they are living. I pay nearly 2/3 of my income for child support and can't afford an atty and don't qualify for legal aide so there's no other option here BUT pro se. I just need some serious guidance so I don't screw something up in this case and sentence my children to a lifetime of abuse and neglect.

DFS has already been notified but CP was raised in and on the system and knows exactly what to say and not to say to avoid an unfavorable report (has done this on numerous occasions). Living off of the system is a 'way of life' for CP so I'm not sure making a report to DFS would help or just make it appear that I am harrassing CP which will hurt my case and my kids even more.

PLEASE, SERIOUS REPLIES ONLY.

Thanks so much!!!

 

[moburkes]

What is the serious situation that cannot wait? How do you expect people to direct you, without additional information?

 

[co2sarg]

What is the serious situation that cannot wait? How do you expect people to direct you, without additional information?

moburkes, thanks for you post and inquiry about my situation. However, due to the serious nature of the situation and the fact that a court date is pending, it would be inappropriate (and maybe detrimental to my case) to post such details in an open forum or to anyone other than an attorney.

I appreciate your concern but feel I have posted enough info for any person knowledgeable in child custody litigation to answer the questions posted.

Thanks again!

 

[CJane]

I appreciate your concern but feel I have posted enough info for any person knowledgeable in child custody litigation to answer the questions posted.

Thanks again!

No, you haven't.

I am VERY knowledgeable (if I do say so myself) about custody issues in MO, as are several other people on this forum. And I, nor any of the others, are going to be able to offer you any assistance without details specifically relating to this 'horrible' situation.

Specifically -

How long have you and mom been separated?
How long has this 'situation' been going on?
Are the children in immediate physical danger?
Is there a level of neglect that rises to potential physical harm (as in medical neglect)?
Why wasn't this information included in the original motion?

What county are you in?

 

[Ohiogal]

I am very knowledgable as well and there is no way without more facts that I would even attempt to provide you with any answers or suggestions.

 

[GrowUp!]

I appreciate your concern but feel I have posted enough info for any person knowledgeable in child custody litigation to answer the questions posted.

Then if that's what you think, you've just screwed yourself out of any advice. Have fun explaining to the judge in 3 months why you didn't act sooner.

 

[stealth2]

moburkes, thanks for you post and inquiry about my situation. However, due to the serious nature of the situation and the fact that a court date is pending, it would be inappropriate (and maybe detrimental to my case) to post such details in an open forum or to anyone other than an attorney.

I appreciate your concern but feel I have posted enough info for any person knowledgeable in child custody litigation to answer the questions posted.

Thanks again!

Well, an attorney has told you that there is insufficient information.