I know my own divorce decree doesn't say that I must call my child, only that I have the right if I choose to. Also I don't see much of a complaint in dirty clothes. Maybe you could send a couple of outfits for him to keep there, and he could manage their care. We did that when my ex kept sending dirty clothes with my child. We bought clothes for our house, and told her not to send a bag. However bad mouthing you in front of your children is another issue. Alienation is serious if it is a constant happening. As far as the disciplinary issue, I would think that should be addressed as well in a hearing. If you want the courts to take you seriously, you really have to choose your battles. Think about how things affect your children, and throw out the things that just annoy you. Good luck in working things out.
