Pyscho Stepmom

[suppermom57]

What is the name of your state? Wisconsin


I have been divorced for 13 years and I have a 15 year old and a 14 year old- we have joint custody with dad having physical placement. The last 11 years has been hell with my ex's wife.(Long Story) Anyway, my question is my children have come to me recently and told me stories of their stepmom and I am starting to wonder if she has a split personality. The children have said that she is on medicine, but she doesn't take it and they said they can definately tell a difference when she does take it. Is there anything legally I can do about this woman raising our children in this kind of environment? I can't talk to dad(my ex) about this because of this woman and the events from the past. Ex and I don't get along anymore because of her and her lies.

Suggestions??

 

[xKellyx]

What is the name of your state? Wisconsin


I have been divorced for 13 years and I have a 15 year old and a 14 year old- we have joint custody with dad having physical placement. The last 11 years has been hell with my ex's wife.(Long Story) Anyway, my question is my children have come to me recently and told me stories of their stepmom and I am starting to wonder if she has a split personality. The children have said that she is on medicine, but she doesn't take it and they said they can definately tell a difference when she does take it. Is there anything legally I can do about this woman raising our children in this kind of environment? I can't talk to dad(my ex) about this because of this woman and the events from the past. Ex and I don't get along anymore because of her and her lies.

Suggestions??

get proof on this and how its effecting your children, then file for a change in custody

why did you not get custody in the first place?

 

[suppermom57]

VERY long story.....and VERY dumb on my part!!

we had joint custody, joint placement when first divorced. We were still seeing each other and he said to me since I was at his house all the time anyway, why don't I just give him placement instead of having these certain times for visitation for me and I could see the children whenever I wanted and said he would never ask for child support. Well, obviously that didn't happen.

What kind of proof would I need? Would I be able to tell if she had a split personality by the medicine that she is taking?

 

[haiku]

your communication problem is NOT with step mom it is with dad.

You need much more proof your children are in actual danger, than hearsay.

 

[suppermom57]

I very much know that there is a communication gap between my ex and I. Has been a problem since our marriage, but stepmom hasn't helped.

Anyway, that is why I'm asking if you can tell a person has a split personality or is pyschotic from the name of the medicine that she is taking?

 

[suppermom57]

The kids have told me when she is taking her medicine, she is laid back, calm and responsive. When not taking her medicine, she is violent, mean, verbally abusive. The kids have told me that their dad literally has to hold her down when they have a fight.

 

[CJane]

Anyway, that is why I'm asking if you can tell a person has a split personality or is pyschotic from the name of the medicine that she is taking?

No, you probably can't.

And questioning your children in an attempt to find out what meds she's taking, or specifically what her behavior is like puts THEM into a horrible situation. If they're not being physically harmed, or in some other way being put into danger when with SMom, you probably ought to let the matter drop.

He*l, I act different if I neglect to take my Midol during certain times of the month.

 

[suppermom57]

NO, I definately am not going to have the kids find out for ME what she is taking. My daughter has brought this to my attention and she so desperately wants her dad to leave this woman. I try very hard to stay neutral and sometimes it's hard.

Thank you for all the sights for the different meds and bipolar personality.

The only proof I may have is from the kids and that won't go far. The other proof I have is from the insurance. I have a statement that has the kids on it with the stepmom and it shows that shows "pysch treatment".....whatever that may mean.

 

[thetsgtswife]

No, you probably can't.

And questioning your children in an attempt to find out what meds she's taking, or specifically what her behavior is like puts THEM into a horrible situation. If they're not being physically harmed, or in some other way being put into danger when with SMom, you probably ought to let the matter drop.

He*l, I act different if I neglect to take my Midol during certain times of the month.

I was thinking the same thing!!

SM could also be on hormone replacements. You could always tell when My missed her shots!

TSGTSWIFE

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Suggestions?

Yes, this is not a legal issue so why are you sticking your nose in it?

This is an issue between your ex and HIS wife. PERIOD!

 

[suppermom57]

EXCUSE ME....Belize


My kids are in the middle of this environment...hope your kids never have to go thru this.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

EXCUSE ME....Belize


My kids are in the middle of this environment...hope your kids never have to go thru this.

And this changes what?

This is NOT a legal issue.

This is NONE of your business.

IF your children do not want to be in the middle of it then they can leave.

Is there anything you don't understand in this?

 

[niecy1215]

If the kids come home with bruises then theres definitely a problem and you have a right to protect them, however, if the stepmom is just "acticng crazy" youll need to somehow prove she's a danger to your children and can harm them; if not her behavior is just another reason for you not to like her.
Despite whatever issues youve had with your ex I think you should talk to him about it. After all, these are YOUR kids and if you are truely concerned about their well being then there is no reason for you NOT to try commuinicating ur concerns. He is their father, wouldnt he protect the kids as well if she were truely a threat?
Like someone else mentioned, it sounds like hearsay until you get some evidence or dad does something about it.

 

[suppermom57]

Just an update**************talked to a sheriff and he told me to take the tape to the DA's office and I CAN press charges against stepmom.

I also am buying cell phones for my children for Christmas.

 

[suppermom57]

Sorry....my last reply was suppose to be on another post.