quest re durable power of atty

[hee]

as told by my wife:

"my 72 yr old mother got sick on the drive back from fl to mi. she collapsed in a hotel & the mgr had her sent to a hosp. she was placed in icu & will be there for another 10 days. she will live. my mother gave her brother durable pwr of atty over her affairs in case of this type of event when she initially moved to mi.

since this event the brother has done very little to in terms of visiting her at the hosp & assiting the staff in her recovery whereas she flew up from fl and has stayed at her side 24/7 for a week now. "

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what my wife would like to know is: how is it possible to get the durable pwr of atty from her uncle so that she is responsible for the care her mother gets, ie, assuming her uncle will not give it to her when she asks for it and her mother remains in a semi-unconcious state for the next couple of weeks? my wife feels that under her uncles supervision, her mother will be neglected by her family and is best qualified to care for her mother considering her background and experience with her deceased grandmother. p.s. the hospital is in oh.

 

[ellencee]

hee
Your mother-in-law made those arrangements before she got sick. More likely than not, she made those arrangements in the manner she wanted things handled. Your mother-in-law probably knew it would be your wife who cared for her physically, and your mother-in-law chose to have someone else be consumed with the legal and financial part so your wife could be with (her).

You said that your mother-in-law is expected to live, and to recover. The time to make changes is after your mother-in-law regains her health and can make that decision for herself. Your wife needs to sit down with her, later, and talk to her about her concerns.

By the time you got this to court, your mother-in-law will have either recovered, or died of old age--barring any 'do we pull the plug, or sell the family home' type of emergency in the meantime.

Fact: it always falls to one female family member to care for the aged and the sick, whether it is a daughter, daughter-in-law, neice, grand-daughter, it will always be ONE female family member who takes on this role.

Everyone else will sit back and help only when pushed, but will have an opinion on every aspect of the care needed and given. Save your energy for your wife's future caregiving needs. You will be her support and she will need you.