What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? I live in Arizona and my mother in law just passed. I am not legally divorced from her son but we have not lived together for 12 years. I remained close with her regardless of my relationship with him. I started dating him at 15yrs old and lived with him and his family for 17 years at age 32 then I left him and took our 5 yr old son with me. I didnt legally divorce him as he hasnt had a job to pay child support and I did not want him to have legal visitation with my son so I waited until he turned 18 to divorce. He is now that age so it is time but his mother got cancer this year and so he moved back home after she became bedridden and I was still very involved in her care. I was the last person to be with her at hospice before she passed - he was with his girlfriend which had been his mothers care giver for two months prior to hospice. I had terrible fight with him about this girls care and his of my mother in law two weeks before she passed as she was calling me and telling me they were not feeding her or cleaning her up for entire days at a time. She was completely bed ridden and I would go there , bring food and clean her up finally I had fight with him after he came into her room and was yelling at her in front of me on one of these visits - he was being abusive to her and it was disgusting. Anyway she has now passed and he has all access to her papers and belongings and has told our son that he is in charge of lots of money left to him and some to me but will give it when he is ready and only if we dont piss him off. I do know that in Az recorded documents she has a living trust under her name but that is all I know for sure. Is there anything we can do to find out what is going on other than him ? Thank you in advance