Question on CO

[WyattJ]

B]each parent gets the child on the child's birthday from 5 p.m. till 7 p.m. [/B][/QUOTE]

**That was a mistake I meant the NCP.

It states in my paper: Child's birthday from 5:00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m to the Petitioner. That means if its his weekend then he already has him.

 

[kidoday]

Hind sight

Dagnabit I spelled that wrong, sorry.

 

[kidoday]

Child's birthday from 5:00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m to the Petitioner. That means if its his weekend then he already has him.

Well that wouldn't have worked for me. I was trying to make sure that each parent would have time with the children.

 

[WyattJ]

B]each parent gets the child on the child's birthday from 5 p.m. till 7 p.m.

**That was a mistake I meant the NCP.

It states in my paper: Child's birthday from 5:00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m to the Petitioner. That means if its his weekend then he already has him. [/B][/QUOTE]

And I screwed up once again....SORRY!

What I should of said and since I really thought about it is that we both get the child on the Child's birthday. If it's my weekend or my weekday that it lands on then the Petitioner - NCP get the child from 5-7 and if it lands on the NCP's weekend he just loses 2 hours early of visit because of the child's birthday clause.

I do not know what I was thinking earlier when I post that just the Petitioner got the child when in fact I have had my son early on a weekend because of his birthday. Sorry! Please forgive me.

Child's birthday from 5:00 p.m. until 7:00 pm. I should of looked at my papers really good before replying to this post.

 

[kidoday]

Sorry! Please forgive me.

Oh I forgive you.


I mean I really think the whole issue is petty. I will definately offer an "additional two hours" prior to the normal exchange.

Stealth???? What would you do?

 

[stealth2]

As much as it would piss me off, I would realize that this is one year when the kid's birthday would fall on an exchange day and the NCP would get to spend more than a couple of hours with the kid on that day. And I would suck it up and let the NCP have more than 2 hours, knowing that next year (and a bunch in the future) *I* would be getting the bulk of the birthday time.

Due to the distance between us, my ex gets a birthday when it falls on his weekend. Only one of our two childrens' ever does based on our schedule. Do I hate not seeing my baby on her birthday? You bet I do. But I get the whole day every other year except those two. I deal with it.

Honestly? To make this into a big deal really IS petty.

 

[kidoday]

You know I figured you would say that and I agree with you. However, in my case this is the last year I will be able to spend more than 2 hours with my baby according to our parenting time schedule. My baby will be with my ex for the rest of the birthdays.

I think I will just suck it up and be the bigger person even though it hurts.

 

[shuga24]

Then tell NCP to pick the kid up at 6 p.m. like arranged and quit being a dick (or, if it's a she, bitch)

OR, now here's a novel thought. Tell him/her to pick the damn kid up two hours early

OR another novel thought. Cut the kid in half and give him the bottom half.

hex you are a trip

 

[haiku]

being as my husband travels for a living on top of having visitation, we all have learned that birthdays and holidays are just days. it really does not matter when you celebrate. and the cool thing is you can celebrate again.

not only do my steps get thier 'big" party at home with mom, they get a little one here with us. Same with our child, we always have a second party with daddy too. We end up eating a lot of cake around here.......

 

[kidoday]

we all have learned that birthdays and holidays are just days.

I disagree with this theory, mainly because I was always cheated out of celebrating my birthday on the actual day. My brothers is 11 days before mine and I really took offense to sharing. But then we can agree to disagree, just because it is my hang up doesn't mean it is anyone elses.

I should also update. The whole petty threat of picking up the birthday child in the middle of the day has now changed to; "I will be over around lunch time to say hello, and you might as well keep them until Monday night since they don't have school on Monday".

 

[haiku]

I disagree with this theory, mainly because I was always cheated out of celebrating my birthday on the actual day. My brothers is 11 days before mine and I really took offense to sharing. But then we can agree to disagree, just because it is my hang up doesn't mean it is anyone elses.

I should also update. The whole petty threat of picking up the birthday child in the middle of the day has now changed to; "I will be over around lunch time to say hello, and you might as well keep them until Monday night since they don't have school on Monday".

oh kiddo you poor thing! i would never make a child share thier birthday!

note in my response, I said the child always got his birthday on "thier" day it was the grownups who had the second celebration for the child. (and they love getting another party)

 

[kidoday]

said the child always got his birthday on "thier" day it was the grownups who had the second celebration for the child

Sorry Haiku, I missed that completely. Maybe because I am still traumatized by sharing my birthday.

 

[nextwife]

Well, one sibling of mine has a birthday on Christmas Day and another on New Years Eve. That means most years, even in an intact family, those days were shared.

How would you have handled THAT situation?

 

[kidoday]

Honestly? I would celebrate each childs birthday on their own day. Double the celebration like Haiku does.

 

[hexeliebe]

I thank God that my ex and I have a realationship that doesn't include this kind of crap. Last year (and every year since) my daughters, who have birthdays 12 days apart, celebrated twice, once with mommy and once with me.

It doesn't really matter (to us) on what day they celebrate, nor does it matter to the girls. All that matters is that they know they will celebrate with EACH parent because the day isn't important, the event is.

This year I had the girls on each of their real birthdays. Next year mommy will. But the girls will have a birthday with me. Early or late.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!