Question/Opinion

[divorcebound]

What is the name of your state?TN

Two questions

1)father wanted 2 yo tested for diabetic claims not active enough. Did not believe I would have her tested, so called the doctor his self to tell DR to test her. After me telling nurse to test her, DR comes in and tells me about father calling. Father called this morning wanting to know what test results were and I told him since he did not believe me and called his self to call his self to find out the results. Am I in the wrong for doing this? I have never told him something when it comes to my children or there health and not do it. So I don't understand where this came from. I was going to have her tested and let them know the results as I told him I would.

Father never was this way until Stepmom came into picture. Now allegations are made all the time by stepmom that my daughter is not healthy and DR said she is perfectly healthy and very active. Stepmom told my 7 year old my daughters crying gets on her nerves. She is 14 years older than my X.

2)Parent plan states that if I think father is under the influence of drugs that children are not to go with him on visitation and I do not have to fear to be held in contempt of court. Father claims that stepmom has all rights to pick my children up without him. I know i read the other day that Stepmoms never have rights when it comes to the stepchildren and I think that his allegation is not true but wanted a second opinion.

 

[BL]

My opinions:

#1) Since you told dad you'd let him know of the results, call HIM and talk to HIM,and let him know.If he don't believe you tell HIM to request the records HIS SELF.
Try to keep an open dialog with the father and try keeping it peaceful " for the best interest of the child ".

#2) The STEP MOM has NO RIGHTS to pick up your and your X's child .
The court has made an order.Stick with it. STEP MOM has NO say so in any legal matter involving the child or court orders, unless her name is specified in the orders .

#3) The Dr's. are stating you daughter is perfectly healthy . It's on record. Tell the Father if he don't believe it,request the records. You have nothing to fear.

#4) It's too bad that step mom can't handle issues with the Father's child.
If these issues start interfering with the child's physical and mental well being ( which at this point the Dr's. are saying she's healthy ),then you can look into modifications of the orders .

It's ironic the Step Mom complains she can't handle issues,but wants to assert rights she doesn't have .

 

[divorcebound]

Thank you for your help and opinion. You have set my mind to rest. I don't like being mean, but it kind of upset me yesterday that he did that after I had already told the Nurse to test her. I just got back the rest of the results and she said they are normal and she is fine. I will call him and tell him just in case they have not called him yet.

Thanks for your help.