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[divorcebound]

What is the name of your state?TN

X and myself have joint on everything. Kids reside with me and he gets every other weekend visits, holdidays are split (even,odd). X and new wife claim something is wrong with 2 year old daughter. Had her tested last week for diabetic, said she is not active enough, pees to much and drinks to much. The diabetic test came back normal. Dr said she is healthy, very active and growth is good that it may be because she is only there every other weekend and not comfortable with the enviroment. Now father has called Dr back this morning wanting her thyroid tested. I was totally unaware of this at all. It states in papers that major medical decision making is joint, and he has rights to medical records that if there is a duplicating fee he is responsible for the fees. I have had two doctors tell me she is healthy and active and fine. This is not something the father would do on his own. This is his new wife claiming something is wrong with her. When I picked my daughter and son up sunday from there visit. My daughter was very quite and not her self and took her about an hour to be back to normal. Is there anything I can do? I need some advice on handling this matter please. New wife is suppose to be a recovery drug addict of twenty years and x is a drug addict claiming he is clean now. Im tired of there allegations and don't know what to do about it.

 

[stealth2]

My ex recently did something similar. I wrote to the doctor and included a copy of the court order stating I'm the CP and we have joint legal custody, and made it plain that unless he was doing nothing more than taking vital stats, he was to contact me BEFORE any invasive procedures or tests were performed or any medications prescribed. At the same time, my attorney wrote to his and made it clear that the ex is to inform me of ANY doctor visit that is for a purpose other than a well-check.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

What allegations? That there may be something wrong with your daughter and your ex sees fit to have her tested. Get over yourself. This is not a 'major medical decision' as outlined in your divorce and papa has every right to make sure his daughter is healthy.

Instead of trying to micromanage the ex be thankful you have one that takes his daughter to the doctor when he suspects something is wrong instead of ignoring it.

Geeeez. Next you'll tell us the new wife is asking your daughter to call her "MOM"....OH MY GAWD, what a travesty.

 

[divorcebound]

BelizeBreeze

I realize it is not a "major medical decision". And yes papa does have every right to make sure his daughter is healthy. And be thankful for what? Do you honestly think he is the one taking off and running her to the doctor.....NOT!
That would be me. They sent her home two weeks ago with her eye blood shot and proceeded to tell me they thought she had pink eye and I may want to take her to the doctor on Monday. They could have taken her to the doctor on Saturday. Her pediatriction and our town clinic was open.
Maybe you need to get over yourself. You need to keep your comments to yourself if you can't be nice about it, you don't know the situation and have no clue what my children have been through with this man.

stealth2--Thank You for your response. It is helpful and gives me an idea of what I can do which is what I thought this web site is for.

Not for other people to be rude to inquiring minds.

 

[stealth2]

BB....

hehehe

 

[BelizeBreeze]

BelizeBreeze
you don't know the situation and have no clue what my children have been through with this man.QUOTE]

Well ladeda! Want a little cheese with that WHINE????

Listen lady, you want to keep playing these games go right ahead. Just don't come whining back to this place when your ex doesn't take his child to the doctor because he's tired of your crap and she gets so sick she runs up thousands of dollars in medical bills, or worse, dies.

You're manipulating the situation for your own good. And it's going to bite you in the ass real soon. Poor damn child. Your daughter, NOT you.

 

[nextwife]

I don't see a non-invasive test as a "major medical decision. He's concerned, and wants the comfort of knowing he did not ignore something that might be a concern.

He didn't schedule surgery, he didn't start meds, he merely had a blood/urine test run. How is that a MAJOR medical decision?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

BB....

hehehe

Seems like old times doesn't it sweetie

 

[stealth2]

hehehehehe I ain'tcher sweetie, dude.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

hehehehehe I ain'tcher sweetie, dude.

More like a Sweetart Now PUCKER UP MOMMA!!!!

 

[stealth2]

phhhhhht, yeah right.