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[barrett21]

What is the name of your state?Tn/Ky My husband went to court in Nov over a DVO Order. While in court the ex told the Judge she had a previous protection order on my husband and that she never knew my husband had been in jail even though she showed no proof of these things they set one. My husband now has paperwork showing that there was never no protection order on him the first time she claims there was one and he has got letters were she had wrote him while in jail that his mother recently found in the attic boxed up can he do anything as far as her lieing on him? or would this be considered petty? The only reason it is a big deal to us is because he can no long call or write his son or go to school functions because he has to be 1000ft away from her and they have court in August and he doesn't want the Judge in TN to think he has been harassing her when he hasn't. Any advice would be great Thanks!

 

[barrett21]

not what I was looking for

not what i was really looking for is there any helpful input please

 

[brisgirl825]

Seems petty to me. Why does your husband want the order dropped? He now has an excuse to not deal with her or listen to her crap. It's a win, win situation.
Why can't the child call him?

 

[barrett21]

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He wants the order dropped because it was based on lies and it looks bad on him his son cannot call him because it would be from her house and that is against the rules there numbers cannot show up on each other's phones or anything and yeah it is good in a way but in a way it's still bad. My husband can't even go to the school functions because they can't stand in the same room he already missed a school play and parade over this. He just feels with as much as she badgers him and lies on him he ought to be able to take this proof and show she is lieing for once that it is the other way around. He also doesn't want to look bad in front of the Judge in Tn imagine what she will be thinking she will think my husband has been trying to do things to her if there is a dvo order.

 

[brisgirl825]

He wants the order dropped because it was based on lies and it looks bad on him his son cannot call him because it would be from her house and that is against the rules there numbers cannot show up on each other's phones or anything and yeah it is good in a way but in a way it's still bad. My husband can't even go to the school functions because they can't stand in the same room he already missed a school play and parade over this. He just feels with as much as she badgers him and lies on him he ought to be able to take this proof and show she is lieing for once that it is the other way around. He also doesn't want to look bad in front of the Judge in Tn imagine what she will be thinking she will think my husband has been trying to do things to her if there is a dvo order.

Is there not a certain number of ft/yds that they must be apart? It seems that going to a parade would be easy to handle. Go to the opposite end of the parade as mom...

At any rate, this was apersonal opinion. There are likely to be other with another view or more ideas for your husband.

Is getting the kid a cell phone not possible? They have some now that have only 4 programmed numbers on them, nothing else. Dad can pay for it and won't have to worry about Jr. racking up the bill.

 

[barrett21]

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They have to be 1000ft apart the attorney told my husband that if they did bump into each other at the parade that my husband could still get into trouble for that. We have mentioned getting his son his own phone and offered to pay for it but were told it would have to go to court and be put in an order to have one his son is 6 so my husband thought if he was going to have to go to court either way he could maybe just try to prove that she lied on him the way she did.

 

[brisgirl825]

They have to be 1000ft apart the attorney told my husband that if they did bump into each other at the parade that my husband could still get into trouble for that. We have mentioned getting his son his own phone and offered to pay for it but were told it would have to go to court and be put in an order to have one his son is 6 so my husband thought if he was going to have to go to court either way he could maybe just try to prove that she lied on him the way she did.

I didn't realize that the kid was that young. I guess I should have asked.

Anyway, so a cell is not a really a good idea at this point. Mom is likely to take it since he is a tad young. I know I would. Although I feel I'd be cool with giving the phone to Jr. for conversations though. I realize that the ex is prolly not as cool as I!

I am all out of help for you, at this point. Hopefully someone else can offer you more.

 

[brisgirl825]

Ok I lied, I have one last idea.

How about internet time? Chat? Webcam? Etc.?

 

[barrett21]

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She says that's to much of an invasion. She kept saying my husband was stalking her so he offered to do all conversations between them through e-mail so they could document it she said no that was an invasion to do any thing like that on the pc. It's starting to feel like a no win situation like it's not ever going to end. He just wants to show that she is so full of it and lies on him all the time. I don't think a phone would be bad for his son don't they sell them now for kids or I thought they did it would just be for his dad to call him on it or him call his dad and then when he had him during the summer she could call there son on it so that way they didn't even have to call each other's phone numbers. Me personally I wish they could work it out for his son it is so hard on him and on my daughter it hard for both families.

 

[barrett21]

more info

My husband called the atty in Ky about the new proof so he is now waiting for a call back. He just wanted some different point of views on this. Thanks!