Question

[anonymous27]

State: FL

I don't know if there is a place for Child support questions. If there is can you please direct me there.

Other then that this is a Child support question. Me and my x have joint custody. I haven't been working, And when I do get a job he wants me to work around his schedule and his wifes. He doesn't want to pay daycare, sitter or afterschool program. My kids are 4 and about to be 7. He tells me get a job around their schedule. When we settled out of court with joint custody I didn't put him on C.S.

Here is my schedule with my kids.
I have them Tue-Sunday He gets them around 1-3pm
Keeps them Sunday and Monday I get them back Tues A.M.
I have them from Tue-Either Fri night or Sat morn (Which Fri he sends his wife to get the kids can he do this? He threatens me if I dont give her the kids) Then he keeps them Sat, Sun, N Mon and I get back Tue a.m.
This isn't what's in our court order but it's been like this for over a year.

Advice please Can I get him for C.S. I ask him to help me but he's always broke and when I say im going to get a job he acts like an Ass so then with all the stress I suffer from Anxiety/panic attacks then it's hard to get a job

 

[acmb05]

State: FL

I don't know if there is a place for Child support questions. If there is can you please direct me there.

Other then that this is a Child support question. Me and my x have joint custody. I haven't been working, And when I do get a job he wants me to work around his schedule and his wifes. He doesn't want to pay daycare, sitter or afterschool program. My kids are 4 and about to be 7. He tells me get a job around their schedule. When we settled out of court with joint custody I didn't put him on C.S.

Here is my schedule with my kids.
I have them Tue-Sunday He gets them around 1-3pm
Keeps them Sunday and Monday I get them back Tues A.M.
I have them from Tue-Either Fri night or Sat morn (Which Fri he sends his wife to get the kids can he do this? He threatens me if I dont give her the kids) Then he keeps them Sat, Sun, N Mon and I get back Tue a.m.
This isn't what's in our court order but it's been like this for over a year.

Advice please Can I get him for C.S. I ask him to help me but he's always broke and when I say im going to get a job he acts like an Ass so then with all the stress I suffer from Anxiety/panic attacks then it's hard to get a job

Do you plan on always letting your ex run your life for you?

Get a job wherever you want to get a job. Its up to him to provide child care when the child is with him.

Make sure your job is accomodating to the original CO schedule.

 

[stealth2]

There is a child support board https://forum.freeadvice.com/forumdisplay.php?f=98

I'm a bit confused, though. I checked back through your other threads to get a better sense of your history, and in those it seems to indicate that you're the Dad. Yet in this one..... you're Mom. It gets confusing when stories & circumstances change from thread to thread, and makes it more difficult for anyone to help you.

In any event, you don't have to do as he dictates with respect to getting a job - you should get a job that works for your schedule and he can deal with it. While you can certainly file for support, you should expect that he would ask the court to impute you an income of at least minimum wage - then it would be up to you to prove why you can't bring in income to help support yourself and your children.

 

[ceara19]

Tell him you will be more than happy to work around his schedule, just as soon as HE starts signing your paychecks!

 

[acmb05]

There is a child support board https://forum.freeadvice.com/forumdisplay.php?f=98

I'm a bit confused, though. I checked back through your other threads to get a better sense of your history, and in those it seems to indicate that you're the Dad. Yet in this one..... you're Mom. It gets confusing when stories & circumstances change from thread to thread, and makes it more difficult for anyone to help you.

In any event, you don't have to do as he dictates with respect to getting a job - you should get a job that works for your schedule and he can deal with it. While you can certainly file for support, you should expect that he would ask the court to impute you an income of at least minimum wage - then it would be up to you to prove why you can't bring in income to help support yourself and your children.

Hmmmm Now I am confused to. I just read her/his other post and he/she clearly says she /he is the dad.

 

[CJane]

So, other than the gender change...

Why are you operating outside the actual court order? Usually those things are set up with the kids best interests in mind, as well as what works best for the parents. Obviously the way you're doing things NOW isn't working for you - either go back to the original, or file for a mod.

 

[CandiceH]

Hmmmm Now I am confused to. I just read her/his other post and he/she clearly says she /he is the dad.

7/15 he/she was a father fighting custody in NEW YORK, not FL

 

[anonymous27]

Me and my Fiance share this name. I should of made a new one. He's curently fighting for custody of his kids. So those have to do with his situation

My situation isn't on any of these threads...

The court order was when I was working and the schedule that I wrote down here is the one we've been doing for over a year now.
And just curious what's wrong with me being a SAHM?
Does it mean that I cannot get child support from him?
He doesn't even let the kids wear the stuff he buys for them to my house.
So if I take this too child support they won't help me? Because I am a SAHM?
I've called all day long but got a busy signal all day. I was thinking about going their personally or am I wasting my time?

 

[CJane]

Ok, answer the questions. WHY is the current schedule BETTER than the actual court order? Because neither one of you are obligated to do ANYTHING that's not in the court order, no matter how long you've been doing it.

And while there's nothing wrong with being a SAHM, the courts aren't going to expect the ex to totaly support you in that endeavor.

 

[anonymous27]

And while there's nothing wrong with being a SAHM, the courts aren't going to expect the ex to totaly support you in that endeavor.

TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION ON THIS. I DON'T ASK HIM TO PAY ANYTHING OF MINE. ALL I ASKED HIM WAS FOR $200 A MONTH FOR THE KIDS FOOD ETC. I DON'T ASK FOR MUCH. I AM NOT ASKING HIM TO GIVE ME MUCH.
MY FIANCE PAYS $800 A MONTH AND SHE USES THAT MONEY ON HERSELF NOT THE CHILDREN. I WAS TOLD BY SOMEONE WHO HAD THE SAME SITUATION AS ME SHE GETS $550 FOR ONE CHILD. I AM NOT EVEN ASKING FOR ALL THAT MUCH.

 

[tkaboni]

Response

Just because you have Joint Custody mean that it is Joint Physical Custody. You need to check whether it is Joint Legal Custody, Joint Physical Custody or Both. The schedule you stated is screwy even if your order is for Joint Physical Custody, usually it would be 1 week on 1 week off or something similar but a longer length of time. As far as you working, he has no say in whether you work or what hours you work. I would definitely file for Child Support and let the Courts figure it out. I went through something similar with the child support. He wasn't working at the time, and I was a full time student so I wasnt working either, but the court based the child support he would pay based on his ability to earn. I would definitely recommend figuring out if you two share joint legal custody, joint physical custody or both. This information would allow us to help you more.