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What is the name of your state? NY
Maybe, you can help me then? Help me to understand what it is that I am doing wrong.
As far as why I go in every Year for child supprot, well to be honest, I pay 33% of all add ons (unpaid medical, dental, psycological, daycare ect.) this is on top of my weekly support obligations. The father sends the children to a summer camp that is quite expencive. my portion of this is about $1000.00, and i have to come up with the monies and have him paid within 7 days of receiving these bills in the mail. As soon as he has $1000.00 accrued he goes straight down and files a petition. My weekly net pay was never enough to cover this summer camp expence. The first year this happened, I had been hit with arrears. This took 2 x's the amount out of my pay, to make up the difference. I did what i had to to pay that off. i was at that time informed that next time i should seek relief of the court. In the mean time other add ons started to accrue. When the time came for the children to go back to this summer camp I asked the father to look into other options, I did the same, He disputed it with me. So i petitioned the court to seek relief and, or to have the children go to a more resonable summer camp. I got slaped in the face.
As soon as the amount, once again, reached that $1000.00 limit the father had me back in court. once again I had to deal with the circomstances. Now once again, here i am int this same situation.
Only now i have concerns about what will happen to me when i go into court this time due to the fact that i am unemployed. I am not totally Unemployed due to the fact that i sell Mary Kay, I started this so that i could possibly come up with the extra $$$ for this situation that i am in. I also had my current husband finance a small business doing crafts to come up with the $$$. Neither of the two has panned out as of yet. I am still working hard at this as well as applying to several locations for a punch clock job. I contacted the CS case worker to let them know that i am currently out of work. They advised me to file a petition seeking relief, well the father beat me to that.
**What will the courts do to me? Can i use my petition as a cross petition?
As far as supervised visits, in this case the court proceedings were in no ones best interest. my att. then advised me to take the supervised visits Due to the fact that we would have to go to trial and i could no longer afford att. fees at that time. He also made the agreement that this would be a temporary setting and that it would be in my best interest due to the aligations that were made against me.
The supervised visits are still going on to date. The director of these visits said to me after the 4th visit that she would be looking into having these visits diminished. It now has been 7 months and there has been no word as to when the supervised visits will end.
**What is my place here now? What do i have to do to get this changed? or should i just leave it be for now and push later?
I know now that my original post was very vague. It opend a door for slander. That was not my intentions. Someone had been talking with me about their friend giving up parental rights. I only asked as a general question, not to actually do it.
I know about going to the school, the doctors office,ect.
They all have copies of the court orders. They are the ones that will not give me any information. So what do i do here? take them to court for not complying to a court order?
As for VG and Hex they could have approached me in a different mannor instead of jumping all over me. that definately didnt help me to stay calm. I guess i expected a little more out of this site than that.
Maybe you can help me go in the right direction.
Sorry for the long post, but i see now that i need to be quite a bit more detailed.
I thank you for any advise.
Maybe, you can help me then? Help me to understand what it is that I am doing wrong.
As far as why I go in every Year for child supprot, well to be honest, I pay 33% of all add ons (unpaid medical, dental, psycological, daycare ect.) this is on top of my weekly support obligations. The father sends the children to a summer camp that is quite expencive. my portion of this is about $1000.00, and i have to come up with the monies and have him paid within 7 days of receiving these bills in the mail. As soon as he has $1000.00 accrued he goes straight down and files a petition. My weekly net pay was never enough to cover this summer camp expence. The first year this happened, I had been hit with arrears. This took 2 x's the amount out of my pay, to make up the difference. I did what i had to to pay that off. i was at that time informed that next time i should seek relief of the court. In the mean time other add ons started to accrue. When the time came for the children to go back to this summer camp I asked the father to look into other options, I did the same, He disputed it with me. So i petitioned the court to seek relief and, or to have the children go to a more resonable summer camp. I got slaped in the face.
As soon as the amount, once again, reached that $1000.00 limit the father had me back in court. once again I had to deal with the circomstances. Now once again, here i am int this same situation.
Only now i have concerns about what will happen to me when i go into court this time due to the fact that i am unemployed. I am not totally Unemployed due to the fact that i sell Mary Kay, I started this so that i could possibly come up with the extra $$$ for this situation that i am in. I also had my current husband finance a small business doing crafts to come up with the $$$. Neither of the two has panned out as of yet. I am still working hard at this as well as applying to several locations for a punch clock job. I contacted the CS case worker to let them know that i am currently out of work. They advised me to file a petition seeking relief, well the father beat me to that.
**What will the courts do to me? Can i use my petition as a cross petition?
As far as supervised visits, in this case the court proceedings were in no ones best interest. my att. then advised me to take the supervised visits Due to the fact that we would have to go to trial and i could no longer afford att. fees at that time. He also made the agreement that this would be a temporary setting and that it would be in my best interest due to the aligations that were made against me.
The supervised visits are still going on to date. The director of these visits said to me after the 4th visit that she would be looking into having these visits diminished. It now has been 7 months and there has been no word as to when the supervised visits will end.
**What is my place here now? What do i have to do to get this changed? or should i just leave it be for now and push later?
I know now that my original post was very vague. It opend a door for slander. That was not my intentions. Someone had been talking with me about their friend giving up parental rights. I only asked as a general question, not to actually do it.
I know about going to the school, the doctors office,ect.
They all have copies of the court orders. They are the ones that will not give me any information. So what do i do here? take them to court for not complying to a court order?
As for VG and Hex they could have approached me in a different mannor instead of jumping all over me. that definately didnt help me to stay calm. I guess i expected a little more out of this site than that.
Maybe you can help me go in the right direction.
Sorry for the long post, but i see now that i need to be quite a bit more detailed.
I thank you for any advise.