[Virginia, Family Law]
So, to summarize my current situation my son has been having a lot of medical issues. I have taken him to many different specialists. I finally found an answer. He needs draining tubes put into both of his ears and he needs his adenoids taken out. I have physical custody of him with joint legal shared with the father (who lives in Wisconsin). Court order was made here in VA. I informed the father that our son will need to have this surgery and he threw a complete fit stating that I need HIS premission for our son to go through this surgery. And demanded that I have ALL of the doctors send every piece of medical paperwork they have on our son and a full letter written by each of the doctors that states the reasoning behind having this surgery done. He will not allow me to explain our sons medical reasons as to why he needs the surgery simply because "he doesn't trust my words".
Correct me if I'm wrong but, I thought with me having physical custody that I have more say so on what happens with/to our son? And with him having joint legal I am just suppose to let him know about medical, religious, and educational.
My legal question: Do I need his premission for surgery? What exactly is joint legal custody?
Thank you.
So, to summarize my current situation my son has been having a lot of medical issues. I have taken him to many different specialists. I finally found an answer. He needs draining tubes put into both of his ears and he needs his adenoids taken out. I have physical custody of him with joint legal shared with the father (who lives in Wisconsin). Court order was made here in VA. I informed the father that our son will need to have this surgery and he threw a complete fit stating that I need HIS premission for our son to go through this surgery. And demanded that I have ALL of the doctors send every piece of medical paperwork they have on our son and a full letter written by each of the doctors that states the reasoning behind having this surgery done. He will not allow me to explain our sons medical reasons as to why he needs the surgery simply because "he doesn't trust my words".
Correct me if I'm wrong but, I thought with me having physical custody that I have more say so on what happens with/to our son? And with him having joint legal I am just suppose to let him know about medical, religious, and educational.
My legal question: Do I need his premission for surgery? What exactly is joint legal custody?
Thank you.