Re-locating for career and life advancement

[krose69]

What is the name of your state? Ohio
I live in Ohio and I am a 36-year-old, college educated, never married mother of two beautiful children (son, age 9 and daughter age 15 months). I am the physical/custodial parent of my son, whose father has been hit-or-miss with his visitations for my son's entire life. He has "visitation rights", every other weekend, and two weeks in the summer, which he has NEVER exercised in my son's entire life. I am currently cohabitating with the father of my daughter. The relationship is essentially all but over except for the "formality" (ruse?) of counseling (we want different things, opposite personalities, polar opposite parenting beliefs, we rushed into things, got pregnant immediately, etc....). Paternity hasn't legally been established, let alone a custody agreement set-up (he IS her father). My present workplace has merged with another institution, and downsizing Job abolishment looms huge, and is a virtual reality for me. I have been offered an opportunity for career advancement (not just a job offer) outside of Phoenix, AZ. I want to move there with my son and daughter; my daughters father will fight me, son's will not. Can visitation be set up so that she lives with me and sees her dad on over school holiday/vacation and/or summer breaks? Can he stop me from moving entirely? I would even be willing to decline his child support obligation. (I would not "go for" joint custody even if I remained in the same city as he). In short, what sort of a battle am I facing and what can I do so the outcome is in my daughter's favor-the best interests are for her to remain with her mother

 

[stealth2]

You can move anywhere you want. But you may not be able to bring the kid with you. If you ARE, expect to be fully responsible for all transportation.

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? Ohio
I live in Ohio and I am a 36-year-old, college educated, never married mother of two beautiful children (son, age 9 and daughter age 15 months). I am the physical/custodial parent of my son, whose father has been hit-or-miss with his visitations for my son's entire life. He has "visitation rights", every other weekend, and two weeks in the summer, which he has NEVER exercised in my son's entire life. I am currently cohabitating with the father of my daughter. The relationship is essentially all but over except for the "formality" (ruse?) of counseling (we want different things, opposite personalities, polar opposite parenting beliefs, we rushed into things, got pregnant immediately, etc....). Paternity hasn't legally been established, let alone a custody agreement set-up (he IS her father). My present workplace has merged with another institution, and downsizing Job abolishment looms huge, and is a virtual reality for me. I have been offered an opportunity for career advancement (not just a job offer) outside of Phoenix, AZ. I want to move there with my son and daughter; my daughters father will fight me, son's will not. Can visitation be set up so that she lives with me and sees her dad on over school holiday/vacation and/or summer breaks? Can he stop me from moving entirely? I would even be willing to decline his child support obligation. (I would not "go for" joint custody even if I remained in the same city as he). In short, what sort of a battle am I facing and what can I do so the outcome is in my daughter's favor-the best interests are for her to remain with her mother

Stealth has also posted a link re; relocation on this forum which is very informative.

 

[acmb05]

What is the name of your state? Ohio
I live in Ohio and I am a 36-year-old, college educated, never married mother of two beautiful children (son, age 9 and daughter age 15 months). I am the physical/custodial parent of my son, whose father has been hit-or-miss with his visitations for my son's entire life. He has "visitation rights", every other weekend, and two weeks in the summer, which he has NEVER exercised in my son's entire life. I am currently cohabitating with the father of my daughter. The relationship is essentially all but over except for the "formality" (ruse?) of counseling (we want different things, opposite personalities, polar opposite parenting beliefs, we rushed into things, got pregnant immediately, etc....). Paternity hasn't legally been established, let alone a custody agreement set-up (he IS her father). My present workplace has merged with another institution, and downsizing Job abolishment looms huge, and is a virtual reality for me. I have been offered an opportunity for career advancement (not just a job offer) outside of Phoenix, AZ. I want to move there with my son and daughter; my daughters father will fight me, son's will not. Can visitation be set up so that she lives with me and sees her dad on over school holiday/vacation and/or summer breaks? Can he stop me from moving entirely? I would even be willing to decline his child support obligation. (I would not "go for" joint custody even if I remained in the same city as he). In short, what sort of a battle am I facing and what can I do so the outcome is in my daughter's favor-the best interests are for her to remain with her mother

No the best interest would be to have both parents in her life all the time. You moving across the country would not be in her best interest but yours

If the father establishes paternity and fights it you will have a tough road ahead of you.

 

[LdiJ]

No the best interest would be to have both parents in her life all the time. You moving across the country would not be in her best interest but yours

If the father establishes paternity and fights it you will have a tough road ahead of you.

Read the link that Stealth posted....not all states see the cp's best interest as distinctly separate from the child's. We all need to rethink a bit our standard response to these inquiries.

 

[Zephyr]

wha* is wi*h *he as*erisks?

 

[ezmarelda]

wha* is wi*h *he as*erisks?

thats what i was thinking!


edit to add-ok too weird now they are gone

 

[LdiJ]

thats what i was thinking!


edit to add-ok too weird now they are gone

I saw it too...that was definitely weird....

 

[CALIF-LAWPRO45]

My response:

Tourett's Syndrome!!

That's what it is. Haven't you people ever seen the written version of Tourett's before?

Geez!!

IAAL

 

[ezmarelda]

My response:

Tourett's Syndrome!!

That's what it is. Haven't you people ever seen the written version of Tourett's before?

Geez!!

IAAL

Thank you I now have coffee on my keyboard...again....
I think by logic of the letters that were apearing as * that someone was cencoring one of your favorite "C" words

 

[acmb05]

Read the link that Stealth posted....not all states see the cp's best interest as distinctly separate from the child's. We all need to rethink a bit our standard response to these inquiries.

I just don't see where moving 2000 miles away and the child not seeing her father (who btw the OP lives with at the moment) would be beneficial to the child. She sees her daddy everyday now and OP is suggesting she only see him on school breaks and summer.

Also the OP stated (I would not "go for" joint custody even if I remained in the same city as he) It's like she does not want him to have as much time with the child as she does.

I get the feeling she is bitter and is using this to try to get even with the dad.

 

[Silverplum]

I just don't see where moving 2000 miles away and the child not seeing her father (who btw the OP lives with at the moment) would be beneficial to the child. She sees her daddy everyday now and OP is suggesting she only see him on school breaks and summer.

Also the OP stated (I would not "go for" joint custody even if I remained in the same city as he) It's like she does not want him to have as much time with the child as she does.

I get the feeling she is bitter and is using this to try to get even with the dad.

ITA w/acmb.

 

[CJane]

It's like she does not want him to have as much time with the child as she does.

She doesn't. She said in her very first post that one of the reasons they're breaking up is "polar opposite parenting beliefs". Obviously, she thinks her parenting skills are far superior to his.

Wanna bet it's a spanking issue?

 

[LdiJ]

The point I was making was that after reading through the link that Stealth posted....I am pretty sure that our standard response is not necessarily accurate for all states.