Really interesting situation

[MPark65]

United Kingdom

Ok bare with me here cos you probably haven't come across something like this this before.

I am a male based in the UK who had a long term long distance relationship with an American female

I am unable to enter the US due to a criminal record accrued during my youth

She would venture here to see me every so often and we were sexually active to which i believe she became pregnant

There a 100's of reasons i have come to this conclusion ranging from family pictures to throwing up randomly during a visit

The main thing is i have tons of circumstantial evidence to support knowledge of a child being hidden from me

What i want to know is how can i find out?

I haven't approached the family for a few reasons but mainly i don't want to be wrong and look insane

However if i am right the mere fact any deception was used i do not believe it is worth even thinking they would be straight with me even now and posibly even covering tracks

It is seriously affecting my mental state with this running through my mind and how could i find out if i am correct?

Would there be any public birth records i could view or see any potential adoption agreements from the timeline i have?

I would not want to challenge any custody or have access to the child (if am indeed correct) because the kid is now a few years old and has developed a full child parent bond with his family

All i want to know is if i actually have a son and that will help ease my mind on this matter

Please help

 

[Proserpina]

United Kingdom

Ok bare with me here cos you probably haven't come across something like this this before.

You'd be surprised...

I am a male based in the UK who had a long term long distance relationship with an American female

I am unable to enter the US due to a criminal record accrued during my youth

She would venture here to see me every so often and we were sexually active to which i believe she became pregnant

There a 100's of reasons i have come to this conclusion ranging from family pictures to throwing up randomly during a visit

The main thing is i have tons of circumstantial evidence to support knowledge of a child being hidden from me

What i want to know is how can i find out?

I haven't approached the family for a few reasons but mainly i don't want to be wrong and look insane

However if i am right the mere fact any deception was used i do not believe it is worth even thinking they would be straight with me even now and posibly even covering tracks

It is seriously affecting my mental state with this running through my mind and how could i find out if i am correct?

Would there be any public birth records i could view or see any potential adoption agreements from the timeline i have?

I would not want to challenge any custody or have access to the child (if am indeed correct) because the kid is now a few years old and has developed a full child parent bond with his family

All i want to know is if i actually have a son and that will help ease my mind on this matter

Please help

Here's the deal as it pertains to the US.

You can't force a DNA paternity test unless you're here. We're good at linking other states via chain of custody, but not other countries.

Sorry, but you're stuck.

(I'm a Brit, fwiw)

 

[stealth2]

United Kingdom

Ok bare with me here cos you probably haven't come across something like this this before.

I am a male based in the UK who had a long term long distance relationship with an American female

I am unable to enter the US due to a criminal record accrued during my youth

She would venture here to see me every so often and we were sexually active to which i believe she became pregnant

There a 100's of reasons i have come to this conclusion ranging from family pictures to throwing up randomly during a visit

The main thing is i have tons of circumstantial evidence to support knowledge of a child being hidden from me

What i want to know is how can i find out?

I haven't approached the family for a few reasons but mainly i don't want to be wrong and look insane

However if i am right the mere fact any deception was used i do not believe it is worth even thinking they would be straight with me even now and posibly even covering tracks

It is seriously affecting my mental state with this running through my mind and how could i find out if i am correct?

Would there be any public birth records i could view or see any potential adoption agreements from the timeline i have?

I would not want to challenge any custody or have access to the child (if am indeed correct) because the kid is now a few years old and has developed a full child parent bond with his family

All i want to know is if i actually have a son and that will help ease my mind on this matter

Please help

I'm glad to see that some Brits are no more proficient in their Mother Tongue than some Americans.

 

[single317dad]

United Kingdom

Ok bare with me here cos you probably haven't come across something like this this before.

I am a male based in the UK who had a long term long distance relationship with an American female

I am unable to enter the US due to a criminal record accrued during my youth

She would venture here to see me every so often and we were sexually active to which i believe she became pregnant

There a 100's of reasons i have come to this conclusion ranging from family pictures to throwing up randomly during a visit

The main thing is i have tons of circumstantial evidence to support knowledge of a child being hidden from me

What i want to know is how can i find out?

I haven't approached the family for a few reasons but mainly i don't want to be wrong and look insane

However if i am right the mere fact any deception was used i do not believe it is worth even thinking they would be straight with me even now and posibly even covering tracks

It is seriously affecting my mental state with this running through my mind and how could i find out if i am correct?

Would there be any public birth records i could view or see any potential adoption agreements from the timeline i have?

I would not want to challenge any custody or have access to the child (if am indeed correct) because the kid is now a few years old and has developed a full child parent bond with his family

All i want to know is if i actually have a son and that will help ease my mind on this matter

Please help

So, you're just curious then? Wouldn't be interested (indeed, not even capable) of raising or bonding with your potential child, just sorta would like to know, eh?

 

[MPark65]

So, you're just curious then? Wouldn't be interested (indeed, not even capable) of raising or bonding with your potential child, just sorta would like to know, eh?

I am financially stable, responsible and a completely different person to when i was young

The past prevents me from having a lot of choice in life even though my punishment is served

I could drop the issue but the single fact is it is a burden on my mind

I would not even attempt to disrupt someones life after so long but i still have a right to know

I would be around if i was ever needed for things like transplants due to hereditary illnesses which is a common theme from my fathers line

I hope that satisfies any questions

 

[Proserpina]

I am financially stable, responsible and a completely different person to when i was young

The past prevents me from having a lot of choice in life even though my punishment is served

I could drop the issue but the single fact is it is a burden on my mind

I would not even attempt to disrupt someones life after so long but i still have a right to know

With all due respect, for all intents and purposes you waived that right when you didn't commit to Mom.

I would be around if i was ever needed for things like transplants due to hereditary illnesses which is a common theme from my fathers line

The chances of you being the only match are - literally - zero. Do you understand how transplants and organ procurement work?

I hope that satisfies any questions

Doesn't change anything. As of right now, you're not the father. Not your child. You can't come to the US, which is really the only option available. Ergo, done deal.

 

[MPark65]

With all due respect, for all intents and purposes you waived that right when you didn't commit to Mom.

I made a proposal but she wasn't willing to leave the US and since i couldn't get there we broke up which had nothing to do with my commitment

The transplant was just an example but this thread has took a ridiculous turn with me having to defend myself when i am not in the wrong

So please unless you have something to contribute that actually address my initial question do not reply

 

[justalayman]

I made a proposal but she wasn't willing to leave the US and since i couldn't get there we broke up which had nothing to do with my commitment

The transplant was just an example but this thread has took a ridiculous turn with me having to defend myself when i am not in the wrong

So please unless you have something to contribute that actually address my initial question do not reply

It's not being right or wrong other than the only real purpose of your inquiry if for your own personal resolve. Your curiosity could result in the mother and child being reminded of things they would just as well forget as well, especially since it appears you won't be coming to this country to visit the child anyway. Some things are better left alone and sometimes you have to realize that you are the only one that will benefit from your actions and there is a possibility others will be injured by your actions.


While you may have changed since your issues when you were young, it is obvious you have not matured enough to understand when you should think of others rather than yourself.

 

[Proserpina]

I made a proposal but she wasn't willing to leave the US and since i couldn't get there we broke up which had nothing to do with my commitment

The transplant was just an example but this thread has took a ridiculous turn with me having to defend myself when i am not in the wrong

So please unless you have something to contribute that actually address my initial question do not reply

Oh no, that's not how this works. You don't get to decide who responds.


1. You have no child, legally speaking.
2. There's nothing you can do from England
3. You need to apologize to the posters here for your attitude. And you've alienated the one person who is a Brit and may have been more eager to help you.
4. Have a nice life.

.

 

[MPark65]

Oh no, that's not how this works. You don't get to decide who responds.


1. You have no child, legally speaking.
2. There's nothing you can do from England
3. You need to apologize to the posters here for your attitude. And you've alienated the one person who is a Brit and may have been more eager to help you.
4. Have a nice life.

.

This thread has run it's course

I will not apologize to anyone here as my attitude has been very passive

I merely asserted myself to save the thread going off track any further

Thanks for the advice received and i wish you well

 

[stealth2]

I am financially stable, responsible and a completely different person to when i was young

The past prevents me from having a lot of choice in life even though my punishment is served

I could drop the issue but the single fact is it is a burden on my mind

I would not even attempt to disrupt someones life after so long but i still have a right to know

I would be around if i was ever needed for things like transplants due to hereditary illnesses which is a common theme from my fathers line

I hope that satisfies any questions

How about supporting the child - financially?

p.s. Punctuation is fundamental.