Recognizing a child/child support

[dscretchnc]

What is the name of your state? North Carolina

I think half my question requires looking into NYS law and the other, NC law.

The father of my child and I have talked and after 7 years wants to be a part of my daughter's life. This is a good thing because I've wanted this for a very long time. He is not on the birth certificate because at the time I did not think it was necessary since he did not want to be a part of our lives. Now that he wants to establish a relationship we are both looking to see how we can have the law recognize him as her dad (my daughter was born in New York City). So my question is, how do I get him on her birth certificate and are there any other things I need to do so he is recognized?

Next is child support. I asked him if he is willing to provide financial support and he said yes. I want this to be as amicable as possible and without involving the courts. We are in the beginning stages of communicating and so far, so good. He wants to provide, but we did not talk about an amount. How do I determine how much he is obligated to pay and given that he lives in Greece (he is Greek, not an American), is there anything I should know about Greek law, etc.? He is also looking into Greek law to see what he needs to do to be recognized as my daughter's father in Greece, but I also think he is willing to pay whatever it takes to provide for his daughter. Am I being too naive at this point?

Thanks.

 

[dscretchnc]

Thanks for the link Silverplum! I'll PM jbowman as well.

 

[Silverplum]

Thanks for the link Silverplum! I'll PM jbowman as well.

You're very welcome.

 

[dscretchnc]

Hi jbowman,

Do you want me to PM you?

 

[jbowman]

Hi jbowman,

Do you want me to PM you?

No, Im sorry but if I knew the answer to your question, I would have posted it. Silverplum is apparently upset with me and trying to make YOU the butt of her rude joke. I apologize, that is very rude.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? North Carolina

I think half my question requires looking into NYS law and the other, NC law.

The father of my child and I have talked and after 7 years wants to be a part of my daughter's life. This is a good thing because I've wanted this for a very long time. He is not on the birth certificate because at the time I did not think it was necessary since he did not want to be a part of our lives. Now that he wants to establish a relationship we are both looking to see how we can have the law recognize him as her dad (my daughter was born in New York City). So my question is, how do I get him on her birth certificate and are there any other things I need to do so he is recognized?

Next is child support. I asked him if he is willing to provide financial support and he said yes. I want this to be as amicable as possible and without involving the courts. We are in the beginning stages of communicating and so far, so good. He wants to provide, but we did not talk about an amount. How do I determine how much he is obligated to pay and given that he lives in Greece (he is Greek, not an American), is there anything I should know about Greek law, etc.? He is also looking into Greek law to see what he needs to do to be recognized as my daughter's father in Greece, but I also think he is willing to pay whatever it takes to provide for his daughter. Am I being too naive at this point?

Thanks.

If you want to handle child support without involving the courts, that's fine, but honestly, you should not handle the paternity/custody/visitation issues without involving the courts.

If your intent is that the child will eventually visit him in Greece, once they have established a relationship, it would not be wise not to have paternity/custody/visitation court orders.