Redhead in desperate need of advice from a powerful man!

[sbaldwin]

Okay, so my hair really isn't red. I hope it got you to my post though! I posted this earlier, but you didn't respond. Can you help?
We are getting an attorney for some other things, but do we need one to file a no contact order? It will be a few weeks before we obtain an attorney, and we don't want to wait that long for the No Contact Order. Is there any way we can just let her know that we want no phone contact before the order is done? She is driving us crazy with her calls!

 

[sbaldwin]

This isn't working either, maybe it's because I'm the step-mother!

 

[CMSC]

sbaldwin, sorry this idea didn't work...you're right it is probably the step mom thing.

Have you thought about just going for it (No Contact Order)? What can happen? The judge will not grant it, that is it.

My husbands situation with his ex got a lot better after we "threatened" to file harassment charges against her for calling so much that it cleared our caller i.d. 3 times in one day!! We just stopped answering the phone when she called and then we contacted the phone company and told them we were receiving harrassing calls from this number and they blocked the calls for us! When we moved we asked the ex's lawyer not to give her our number and he didn't! Therefore we have not been bothered and we haven't had to go to court for the No contact order!

Just a thought...you may contact your phone company to see what they can do.

 

[usmcfamily]

Contact the clerk of the court and ask what is entailed in filing for the NCO that you want -- it may be a matter of filling in the blanks on the forms they give you and paying your filing fee.
Barring that I think that RyRy's suggestion is an excellent one -- however be aware that COMPLETELY cutting off her contact with her child without a court order in your favor could backfire on you so I would suggest the next time she does call you explain that you would be glad to allow her to talk to the child if she calls between the hours of x and y (you set them - give her a one or two hour window).........make it clear that this is her opportuninty to talk to the child and that neither you or your husband will be sucked into any discussion about any of the current situation -- and that anymore than one call a day will not be answered. This way you are limiting her ability to wreak havoc in your house but are not opening yourselves up to issues once this gets to court by not allowing her any contact with the child......just a thought
Or along that same lines set up a day that they talk -- we aren't in an ugly situation but we do have a routine whereby the bio-dad of my daughter talks to her every Sunday (of course being that we have no ugly issues between us he can call anytime he wants but they have their "special talk time" set aside every Sunday so they are guaranteed a chance to keep up with each other.......

 

[haiku]

My husband carries a cell phone at all times for work, it is always on him, and sometimes if he is home for a long period we transfer that number into the home phone.

during his and her custody mess, she demanded the home phone, my husband said the cell should be enough, as the home phone was MY phone and she had no reason to call me. (at the time she was harrassing us-me, which was the reall reason she wanted our number) The court agreed that the cell was sufficient, for contact with him and with the kids when they were visiting.

Also no one says you cant get a second phone line and leave it unplugged or hooked to a turned down machine when you don't have the kids or dont have phone visitation going on. Return her calls when YOU want.

set up phone visitation in court for the kids strictly for the kids and NOT for the parents. parents can communicate by mail or email.

it has been almost 2 years now, and we have relaxed a bit, in that they now talk civil on the phone, and don't bother with the letter stuff anymore. and I gave my oldest skids my number so they can call me or thier sister if they want, to let them know I am open to them always. I also recently let her have it too, to extend an olive branch. (I don't think she knows what that means though LOL)

 

[sbaldwin]

Thanks everyone! I think I'll try what usmcfamily suggested. We usually don't answer her calls unless my ss is here. However, this time she left a message that my ss felt like he was having to "hold in secrets about her"...only if SHE told him to lie!! My husband answered the second time to find out what was going on, and she then called back 4 more times after cussing at him, and telling him he doesn't know what their divorce papers actually say. She will be receiving a copy of the section in question this week!