WhattheHeck19
Member
Texas
I have been divorced for over 5 years. My ex is extremely bitter and hasn't moved on with her own life. She got engaged but then that relationship failed. We have a child together that's now 11 years old. I have always been current on child support and have paid her for medical bills that she's sent me. She ended up getting braces for my daughter without ever once consulting me, agreeing to a $6600 contract without notice.
I just got engaged to my long time girlfriend and notified my ex (before my kid did and the ex reacted poorly to my child) via email. Her response was the usual sarcastic and crappy attitude she normally has. She then told me that since I could buy my fiance a ring that I could now pay her the money I "owe her" for medical bills. She sent me a word document list of bills dating back to 2016. She acknowledges that I have paid her over $800 toward bills but claims that I still owe over $1200 in bills that she never sent me. Clearly she has been adding up bills and now sending them to me out of spite and anger due to my engagement.
I combed back through our divorce decree and find that she is required to "furnish" bills to me in person or via certified mail within 30 days of treatment and that I then have 30 days to pay my portion of uncovered (through my insurance) amounts. She has never once properly furnished me with a single bill according to our decree, in the past and the ones I have paid have all been through email. Because she chooses to be vindictive and I'm having a hard time sorting out what I would owe from her bs word document and comparing them to insurance statements I've asked her to furnish each individual bill the way she is required to. I even told her that I would pay them after seeing the bills. Since then, she has taken away my visitation with my daughter (that I was supposed to have yesterday) and is threatening me with a lawyer.
With her, the turmoil has been pretty constant and she regularly berates me mostly through email. I don't feel that asking her to do her part and sending me the bills is unreasonable. I'm in Texas...does anyone know if I could be held in contempt? Or am I even obligated to pay since she hasn't sent me the bills in the 30 day timeline? I don't want to just fork her over money because she's angry and bullying me either. I'm willing to do my part but I'm also not willing to play her games. Advice?
I have been divorced for over 5 years. My ex is extremely bitter and hasn't moved on with her own life. She got engaged but then that relationship failed. We have a child together that's now 11 years old. I have always been current on child support and have paid her for medical bills that she's sent me. She ended up getting braces for my daughter without ever once consulting me, agreeing to a $6600 contract without notice.
I just got engaged to my long time girlfriend and notified my ex (before my kid did and the ex reacted poorly to my child) via email. Her response was the usual sarcastic and crappy attitude she normally has. She then told me that since I could buy my fiance a ring that I could now pay her the money I "owe her" for medical bills. She sent me a word document list of bills dating back to 2016. She acknowledges that I have paid her over $800 toward bills but claims that I still owe over $1200 in bills that she never sent me. Clearly she has been adding up bills and now sending them to me out of spite and anger due to my engagement.
I combed back through our divorce decree and find that she is required to "furnish" bills to me in person or via certified mail within 30 days of treatment and that I then have 30 days to pay my portion of uncovered (through my insurance) amounts. She has never once properly furnished me with a single bill according to our decree, in the past and the ones I have paid have all been through email. Because she chooses to be vindictive and I'm having a hard time sorting out what I would owe from her bs word document and comparing them to insurance statements I've asked her to furnish each individual bill the way she is required to. I even told her that I would pay them after seeing the bills. Since then, she has taken away my visitation with my daughter (that I was supposed to have yesterday) and is threatening me with a lawyer.
With her, the turmoil has been pretty constant and she regularly berates me mostly through email. I don't feel that asking her to do her part and sending me the bills is unreasonable. I'm in Texas...does anyone know if I could be held in contempt? Or am I even obligated to pay since she hasn't sent me the bills in the 30 day timeline? I don't want to just fork her over money because she's angry and bullying me either. I'm willing to do my part but I'm also not willing to play her games. Advice?