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JoeMN
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I hope someone can offer some helpful advice. I'm not necessarily looking to a lawsuit as a possibility, but at this point I'm not ruling it out either.
Here's the situation..
I've been living in my partner's house in Minnesota for about 4 years now. We are not a male/female couple, and I can understand this can affect the legal implications.
From the beginning he has insisted that I contribute equally to the mortgage and all the monthly expenses because it is "our house". Also I've spent a great deal of time and $$$ on home improvements, including the conversion of the attic which has almost doubled the living space.
On the other hand he has been the sole beneficiary of the tax write off's and additional home equity. When I try to suggest a compromised arrangement, such as paying somewhat less per month - he gets angry and will not discuss these options. He will say that I'm demeaning our relationship by turning it into a renter/landlord arrangement.
It was difficult to press the matter early on as I wasn't prepared to issue an ulitimatum, and perhaps jeopardize our relationship. Now that the possibility of an ending seems far more likely I'm having a very hard time accepting this lopsided arrangement.
It was hard for me to give up on buying my own house when I moved in, and because of my contributions I'm not at a point anymore where I have a proper down payment. I make a much larger income than he does so I've also been the one to pay for vacations, dinners, etc. This is neither here nor there as far as the house, but you can get the idea of how much I'm resenting the end result.
Do I have any recourse in this situation? Or am I just going to have to chalk it up to experience and simply let him benefit from all my monetary contributions? Believe me that won't be easy!
Joe
Here's the situation..
I've been living in my partner's house in Minnesota for about 4 years now. We are not a male/female couple, and I can understand this can affect the legal implications.
From the beginning he has insisted that I contribute equally to the mortgage and all the monthly expenses because it is "our house". Also I've spent a great deal of time and $$$ on home improvements, including the conversion of the attic which has almost doubled the living space.
On the other hand he has been the sole beneficiary of the tax write off's and additional home equity. When I try to suggest a compromised arrangement, such as paying somewhat less per month - he gets angry and will not discuss these options. He will say that I'm demeaning our relationship by turning it into a renter/landlord arrangement.
It was difficult to press the matter early on as I wasn't prepared to issue an ulitimatum, and perhaps jeopardize our relationship. Now that the possibility of an ending seems far more likely I'm having a very hard time accepting this lopsided arrangement.
It was hard for me to give up on buying my own house when I moved in, and because of my contributions I'm not at a point anymore where I have a proper down payment. I make a much larger income than he does so I've also been the one to pay for vacations, dinners, etc. This is neither here nor there as far as the house, but you can get the idea of how much I'm resenting the end result.
Do I have any recourse in this situation? Or am I just going to have to chalk it up to experience and simply let him benefit from all my monetary contributions? Believe me that won't be easy!
Joe