remarriage

[pixie]

What is the name of your state? AZ



Question: Can a marriage licence be obtained after submitting the application and not filed for a certain amount of time? Is it only after filing that the marriage becomes "legal"?

 

[Ohiogal]

Explain the circumstances.

 

[pixie]

Getting remarried, still haggling with ex over a maintenance issue. The wedding planned, guests coming, yada,yada. Want to have the ceremony, etc. but do not want the papers filed until this issue is cleared up, hence the waiting to "file" the marriage certificate.

 

[Ohiogal]

Getting remarried, still haggling with ex over a maintenance issue. The wedding planned, guests coming, yada,yada. Want to have the ceremony, etc. but do not want the papers filed until this issue is cleared up, hence the waiting to "file" the marriage certificate.

No you cannot do that. Good grief. There is a specific amount of time to file and it is normally sent in by the minister/priest/whoever presides over the ceremony. They are not going to hold it for you. And even if you did hold it you could be considered married. If you don't want to be married then don't have the wedding. Don't get the license. And don't go through with the party.

 

[LdiJ]

No you cannot do that. Good grief. There is a specific amount of time to file and it is normally sent in by the minister/priest/whoever presides over the ceremony. They are not going to hold it for you. And even if you did hold it you could be considered married. If you don't want to be married then don't have the wedding. Don't get the license. And don't go through with the party.

Well...they could not get a license, but hold the ceremony anyway. That would make it merely a symbolic marriage rather than a legal one.

Then they could get the license whenever they were ready to get legally married, and then get married a city hall.

 

[nextwife]

So you want to be remarried and have a big party for it, while you are still fighting your ex over SS and still MARRIED to him?

 

[Ohiogal]

Well...they could not get a license, but hold the ceremony anyway. That would make it merely a symbolic marriage rather than a legal one.

Then they could get the license whenever they were ready to get legally married, and then get married a city hall.

I was reading this however as though they already got the license. Which means if they go through with it, they would be married. And most clergy won't hold a symbolic marriage unless the couple is already married. So they could recite vows without ANYONE to officiate.

 

[LdiJ]

I was reading this however as though they already got the license. Which means if they go through with it, they would be married. And most clergy won't hold a symbolic marriage unless the couple is already married. So they could recite vows without ANYONE to officiate.

All that is true...but I know of situations where a clergy would be prepared to peform a symbolic marriage without state sanction.

 

[nextwife]

All that is true...but I know of situations where a clergy would be prepared to peform a symbolic marriage without state sanction.

For a MARRIED woman?

 

[moburkes]

Getting remarried, still haggling with ex over a maintenance issue. The wedding planned, guests coming, yada,yada. Want to have the ceremony, etc. but do not want the papers filed until this issue is cleared up, hence the waiting to "file" the marriage certificate.

I don't think that's she's still married. My take is that she wants alimony to continue all the while she is married to another person.

You know, OP is the type of woman that Bali would be interested in speaking to.

 

[nextwife]

I don't think that's she's still married. My take is that she wants alimony to continue all the while she is married to another person.

You know, OP is the type of woman that Bali would be interested in speaking to.

It's unclear if she's haggling over completing the divorce or wants to just hang onto the alimony despite remarriage.

Sounds like she wants the remarriage ceremony and party without it technically being a remarriage.

 

[moburkes]

It's unclear if she's haggling over completing the divorce or wants to just hang onto the alimony despite remarriage.

Sounds like she wants the remarriage ceremony and party without it technically being a remarriage.

I tend to think that it is more than clear. She called him her ex. She's talking about maintenance. She wants to continue the alimony while remarried. She doesn't want the ex to get the bright idea to have it state that alimony ends upon remarriage.

 

[nextwife]

I tend to think that it is more than clear. She called him her ex. She's talking about maintenance. She wants to continue the alimony while remarried. She doesn't want the ex to get the bright idea to have it state that alimony ends upon remarriage.

I've seen posters use that terminology as soon as they are out the door. Some consider them an "ex" as soon as they leave.

Anyway, its still sounds like poster wants the party, the ceremony and maybe the gifts of a remarriage without it actually COUNTING as a remarriage.

 

[Ohiogal]

I tend to think that it is more than clear. She called him her ex. She's talking about maintenance. She wants to continue the alimony while remarried. She doesn't want the ex to get the bright idea to have it state that alimony ends upon remarriage.

WHich it most likely does. Hence she is acting like a spoiled brat. Wants two men supporting her. Lovely. She gives all women a bad name.

 

[nextwife]

WHich it most likely does. Hence she is acting like a spoiled brat. Wants two men supporting her. Lovely. She gives all women a bad name.

But what about all those YEARS she put into the marriage? What does she GET for that?

(I always wonder why people put it that way - because if SHE had X years into the marriage, doesn't that simultaneously mean HE also had the same number of years into the marriage????? )