restraining order help!

[cjb2011]

My name is chelci. I live in Ohio.
I am 16 and ill be 17 in 3 months. The guy i am in love with just turned 19.
Long story short; we met a year ago and started dating about a month after. My parents hate him and didnt want us dating. So within 2 weeks that we were dating, they made us break up and we werent allowed to have any contact. My parents are very unreasonable when it comes to this..but anyhow, we both couldnt handle that so we found ways to talk. but my parents are completely in control of my life and always found out. we have hung out many times and have talked alot. we are really in love. but last night my parents finally had it with us talking and filed a restraining order on him. the cops talked to him and he has a hearing on tuesday of next week.
I dont understand how my parent can keep a restrainin on him since im almost 17 and i dont agree with it. Will i get a chance to tell the court that i dont want the restraining order and that the talking was mutual, like he wasnt stalking me?
If he does get a restraining order, how long will it last?
Until im 18?
Is there anything i can do to get the judge not to put a restraining order on him?
Help! We cant go another year without talking. i just know we are gonna end up talkin, the cops are gonna find out, and he will be in trouble.
what can i do?

 

[cyjeff]

Time for a talk from Unca Jeffy.

Your parents are your gods... they are your warden and jailer. They have the absolute and legal right to choose with whom you spend your time.

Even if.

The legal system doesn't care whether or not your love is so pure it can turn used motor oil into root beer... that angels sing and birds chirp just so that they can bask in the beauty of your love.

If your parents say no, it means no.

Where the restraining order comes in is that your boyfriend, after being told in no uncertain terms to leave you alone, kept in contact.... against their express wishes.

He is, therefore, seen as an impediment to that parental authority.

You, as a minor, will have zippo say in what happens next.

Don't even bother telling me how it isn't fair... how age is just a number... how you will never love again or how you know better than your parents.

The law doesn't care about your opinion.

When you are 18, you can do what you want... and your boyfriend will have already moved on.

Realize this... if he breaks the restraining order, he will go to big boy prison where your love will get him traded around the old cellblock for a pack of cigarettes. You really don't want to know what happens after that.

 

[Ohiogal]

My name is chelci. I live in Ohio.
I am 16 and ill be 17 in 3 months. The guy i am in love with just turned 19.
Long story short; we met a year ago and started dating about a month after. My parents hate him and didnt want us dating. So within 2 weeks that we were dating, they made us break up and we werent allowed to have any contact. My parents are very unreasonable when it comes to this..

No they are not unreasonable. They are your parents. You are a child.

but anyhow, we both couldnt handle that so we found ways to talk. but my parents are completely in control of my life and always found out.

They are good parents then.

we have hung out many times and have talked alot. we are really in love. but last night my parents finally had it with us talking and filed a restraining order on him.

Good for them. They also could have pressed criminal charges on him for contributing to the delinquency of a minor AND you could have found yourself facing charges of incorrigibility -- how does a few nights in detention sound to you?

the cops talked to him and he has a hearing on tuesday of next week.
I dont understand how my parent can keep a restrainin on him since im almost 17 and i dont agree with it. Will i get a chance to tell the court that i dont want the restraining order and that the talking was mutual, like he wasnt stalking me?

Doesn't matter quite frankly. YOU don't get to make that choice when it comes to an adult. Your parents make that choice. If you state that it was mutual you could find criminal charges placed against him and you could face juvenile charges.

If he does get a restraining order, how long will it last?
Until im 18?

Could be five years. That is the term the court allows.

Is there anything i can do to get the judge not to put a restraining order on him?
Help! We cant go another year without talking. i just know we are gonna end up talkin, the cops are gonna find out, and he will be in trouble.
what can i do?

Then it is NOT real love. He will go to jail. Glad to see you don't care about that and wouldn't quit talking to him to keep him out of jail.