california: mother and i are scheduled for mediation for joint custody in 1month. neither of us have ever had custody. we had alternate weeks arrangement between ourselves currently this year.I had her mostly weekends, holidays, and half of the summertime before this year 2001. we had an argument a mth ago, and now she refuses to let me speak on the phone or let me see my daughter until mediation. she picked up our daughter from school early on my week and i have not seen her since 4wks ago. can i pick up my daughter from school and keep her until mediation which is in a month. What can i do to see my daughter?