absent father
Junior Member
What is the name of your state?CA.
Quick background. My sons father walked out when he was 1yr. old, although he was told he could see him when ever he wanted. The D.A. found him after 12yrs. (son is now 14) and we have been in ccourt ever since. He has told so many untruths and down right lies that the papers should be filed in the fiction section. He has tried everything to get out of child support including filing for a divorce down in L.A. claiming NO children of the marriage even though this county already had a judgment against him for support. Now he has moved closer and we did get the divorce. We went to mediation and visitation was set. I have bent over backwards to accommodate him such as letting my son go on several weekends he was not supposed to, I thought it would do them some good. Within 5 months he filed for custodty. He has an attorney and I have been going it alone. We just got the results of the assessment and he has won. I do not feel that his father is the best place for him, he has already told my son the same lies he has told the courts, that I refused to let him see our son and if he tried he would be hurt. I only wish I had those kind of connections. Ha Ha. Since I did not know how to respond to his accusations I believe that they think what he is saying to be true even though with a bit of checking I could prove that what I'm saying is true. I have a letter from a doctor that he got when he was in the navy years ago stating him as having manic depression and requires lithium, and may also require prozac. In my own expirence with him I have noticed that he has a warped since of reality. He believes that everyone is out to get him and he has to fight the world. I only have a week left to object to the assessment before it goes to the judge. I do not know how to object. The paper says as follows, objections must be in writing and must include the following: The specific paragraphs and language to which the objections are made; the reasons for the objections, and; the proposed changes to the recomended order, including specific suggested alternatives. What does this mean? Do I just write a letter as to why I object? Do I have to submit any forms with the objection? Then I have one more question. I know in CA. you can't tape someone without their knowledge, but I have two tapes from my answering machine from when we first separated. He himself said "Oh good this is on tape, I want you to keep this tape and listen to it for years to come." Well I did just that, I have kept them with me all these years. Can they be submited? It is three sides of him just ranting and raving, a little bit threatening, but most of all I think it would prove his character. Please help. I'm afraid if he gets my son he will continue to tell my son these lies and turn him against me. I also have an 8 yr. old daughter that adores her brother, when he goes for the weekend she mopes around until he comes home. It would be devistating for her. Thank you in advance for any help you can provide. I have been reading this site for months and I believe that you guys are very knowledgeable and some times say things that people do not want to hear but it is what they have to hear. Keep up the good work. Thanks
Quick background. My sons father walked out when he was 1yr. old, although he was told he could see him when ever he wanted. The D.A. found him after 12yrs. (son is now 14) and we have been in ccourt ever since. He has told so many untruths and down right lies that the papers should be filed in the fiction section. He has tried everything to get out of child support including filing for a divorce down in L.A. claiming NO children of the marriage even though this county already had a judgment against him for support. Now he has moved closer and we did get the divorce. We went to mediation and visitation was set. I have bent over backwards to accommodate him such as letting my son go on several weekends he was not supposed to, I thought it would do them some good. Within 5 months he filed for custodty. He has an attorney and I have been going it alone. We just got the results of the assessment and he has won. I do not feel that his father is the best place for him, he has already told my son the same lies he has told the courts, that I refused to let him see our son and if he tried he would be hurt. I only wish I had those kind of connections. Ha Ha. Since I did not know how to respond to his accusations I believe that they think what he is saying to be true even though with a bit of checking I could prove that what I'm saying is true. I have a letter from a doctor that he got when he was in the navy years ago stating him as having manic depression and requires lithium, and may also require prozac. In my own expirence with him I have noticed that he has a warped since of reality. He believes that everyone is out to get him and he has to fight the world. I only have a week left to object to the assessment before it goes to the judge. I do not know how to object. The paper says as follows, objections must be in writing and must include the following: The specific paragraphs and language to which the objections are made; the reasons for the objections, and; the proposed changes to the recomended order, including specific suggested alternatives. What does this mean? Do I just write a letter as to why I object? Do I have to submit any forms with the objection? Then I have one more question. I know in CA. you can't tape someone without their knowledge, but I have two tapes from my answering machine from when we first separated. He himself said "Oh good this is on tape, I want you to keep this tape and listen to it for years to come." Well I did just that, I have kept them with me all these years. Can they be submited? It is three sides of him just ranting and raving, a little bit threatening, but most of all I think it would prove his character. Please help. I'm afraid if he gets my son he will continue to tell my son these lies and turn him against me. I also have an 8 yr. old daughter that adores her brother, when he goes for the weekend she mopes around until he comes home. It would be devistating for her. Thank you in advance for any help you can provide. I have been reading this site for months and I believe that you guys are very knowledgeable and some times say things that people do not want to hear but it is what they have to hear. Keep up the good work. Thanks