Seriously thinking divorce where to begin....

[crystal4l]

What is the name of your state? Va.

Married in '99
Since then we have had 2 children. Last year after finding a tape recorder hidden in the bedroom I looked through his truck and found a cassette tape. Well I was thinking I would here me and him but it was him masturbating and calling out my MOTHER's name! Also found all these herbal type pills to enlarge himself but also found female pills. Anyway we went to our pastor and have done counceling thought things were getting better. Well back in Feb. he started sleeping on the couch. Found out he has been ordering porn. Stopped that. Still on the couch. Now I find a order form to a p.o. box where he ordered $500 worth of female transformation pills. Who the heck have I married. It just doesn't make sense. Does it sound like I have grounds?

 

[Ohiogal]

Grounds for what? Divorce? Try more counceling if you want to save the marriage. If not talk to an attorney.

 

[nextwife]

Sounds like he is dealing with a gender reassignment attempt. If he feelks that strongly about it, he may need his own counseling - away from you - to deal with his gender identity issues.

 

[ceara19]

Sounds like he is dealing with a gender reassignment attempt. If he feelks that strongly about it, he may need his own counseling - away from you - to deal with his gender identity issues.

I'm not seeing the same thing in this situation. The guy was ordering porn and herbal "male enhancement". While she didn't say exactly what the "female transformation" pills are, if he is getting them through mail order, they are more likely some type of herbal supplement that enhances "female enjoyment" and/or possibly "female enhancement". Those types of pills wouldn't do anything for a man (I seriously doubt that they would do anything for a woman either). It sounds more like a sexual and/or porn addiction. He may be slipping the female supplements to the wife or giving them to a girlfriend on the side. Since he's sleeping on the couch, I'd guess it's the latter.

OP, if you haven't done so yet, make an appointment with your doctor for a complete STD screening, including HIV testing. If you want to try and make the marriage work, insist that he do the same and that he sign a release so that you can get the results directly from the doctor.

 

[crystal4l]

I found a order form that specifically states TRANSFORMATION ...be the woman you want to be. It is herbal, it is mail order... I think it is for someone else. He is too into his manhood with taking enhancement pills that I have found in the past. I do intend on a divorce I can't deal with this anymore. He isn't aware that I have this information. I think I am going to hire a P.I. He is definately up to something with someone. Or something**************... I would hope this behaviour would be grounds for divorce.

 

[nextwife]

Now I find a order form to a p.o. box where he ordered $500 worth of female transformation pills.

That is why I posted as I did.

 

[Bali Hai]

What is the name of your state? Va.

Married in '99
Since then we have had 2 children. Last year after finding a tape recorder hidden in the bedroom I looked through his truck and found a cassette tape. Well I was thinking I would here me and him but it was him masturbating and calling out my MOTHER's name! Also found all these herbal type pills to enlarge himself but also found female pills. Anyway we went to our pastor and have done counceling thought things were getting better. Well back in Feb. he started sleeping on the couch. Found out he has been ordering porn. Stopped that. Still on the couch. Now I find a order form to a p.o. box where he ordered $500 worth of female transformation pills. Who the heck have I married. It just doesn't make sense. Does it sound like I have grounds?

Have you asked your mother about this?

The grounds could be that he is a MOTHER F*****!!

 

[nextwife]

Boo hiss!

Maybe someone else out there (from his past, or from a book he read, has the same name as mom?