She calls her daddy the stranger and fears him.

[cindyjd05]

I live in Ft.Worth,Tx. My daughter is nine years old. I never married her dad because he ran when I told him I was pregnant. I thought I knew him well enough to think he would be happy. But I was wrong. He called me all kinds of names. He punched my stomach. He changed into an animal and said he would kill my baby if I bugged him. I filed a police report after he made that statement in front of a witness. I never moved after having her. I thought I'd seen the last of him but I was wrong again. Four years later he popped up at my house. He wanted to see her but yet still denied his responsibility. He was told to stop his partying at my neighbors house because she had two teenage girls. After that he never came back and that was just a month later. Years later a paternity test was demanded by the state which then proved he was the father. My daughter was 6 years old then. He agreed to pay child support at that time but also wanted immediate visitation. He told me he was taking anti-depressants and had a sleeping disorder. I was of course alarmed but was told I have no choice and could not stop him. He was ordered to go to counciling with my daughter because she called him a stranger. She feared him greatly emotionally and she started acting out on her fears. Her grades were dropping. I told him if he refused the counciling then I did not want her to go with him anymore. After just one visit with her father I told him I would not force her to go anymore. I could not bear the fearful look in her eyes anymore. He needed to prove to her he meant her no harm in front of someone she could trust. He expected to just step into her life and for her to except it no matter how much she cried or rebelled. Alex is a good child but changes drastically when he decides to pop up in her life. Well he is back again. She is nine years old now. He has been on the run for all this time. The attorny general found him several times before but once his wage was garnished he would quit his job.
One time an employee from the child support office called me and told me to get a protection order against him immediately. She said he came to their office in a rage and promised he was going to Ft. Worth to take care of this business. He was tired of them finding him then garninishing his check. She feared he would do something to the child. We put her school on alert. He said if she wasn't around he would not have to pay child support.
What can I do? He may harm my child if he spends time alone with her. Please help her. What steps do I need to follow to secure her safety. I don't want his child support anymore and never did. The state wanted their money back first and was why I believed they pursued him. He owed the state for the D.N.A. test and hospital bills. I think he is mentally unstable and if he fools the courts my daughter will become another statistic.

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Christy

 

[deefran]

Sadly, the courts may still grant visitation to your ex if he requests it. ALthough it may be supervised since she is unfamiliar with him again. If I were you, I'd hire an attorney who would request the stipulation that if your ex misses so and so amount of visits that his rights to visitation be revoked. Did you file the restraining order, and is the CS worker willing to testify on your behalf regarding his threats? If so this could work against him concerning visitation. This is a tricky situation, as courts can go either way when granting visitation. They could even find you in contempt if your ex provides dates when he wanted to see his daughter and you didn't allow him. So hiring a lawyer is your best option.