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Im posting for my Aunt, she has no internet access but has called me asking to help her. I will type as she talks.
I have a 15 yr old son. My son refuses to attend school, he drinks, smokes cigarettes and pot( i fear he is on other drugs as well), and scares me at times. I am 5 feet tall and very thin I weight only 110 pounds. My son is 6 feet tall and weighs 160. The times I have attempted to ground him he leaves pushing me out of the way. I have called the police and unless he really hurts me there is nothing they can do. He insults the teachers and was suspended for calling the principal a dirty name just two weeks before school let out. I have paid fines for truancy over and over and have told the judge whats going on and he says that I have to figure it out and fines me 500 dollars. I am at fault for this. I was a drug user for many years, just got clean 2 years ago. I neglected him and shuffled him around between my sisters and other family. We have tried family counseling, we have done individual counseling and he will not talk. Last time he spat in the counselors face and walked out. The counselor said that unless he is willing to open up about him being angry than nothing is going to help him. he recently has began to hang out with members of a gang that call themselves the Bloods. I called the police and told them this, their response was to not let him associate with them in anyway. My son also recently went to his sisters house and punched her, she is 19, she ( this may sound bad) punched him back blooding his nose and then called the police. No charges where filed against anyone. I have looked all over for help, I have found "homes" but I cannot afford the services they provide, one wanted 2000 for the first six months. I work in a nursing home as the activities director, I make 9 an hour but just barley pay the bills. His father is in prison for rape and other charges. No one can control him, no one can talk to him, he is angry at the world and I know my actions caused this but I have no idea how to undo what I have done. I have read books, I have went to parenting classes, I have gone to counseling and still go. Is there any help for my son? Any programs that do not require so much money. I know its bad but sometimes I wish he were in jail. He says he is not mad at me for what I have done but that he didn't need me growing up and dont need me now. He acted like this with other family but not as bad but my family is no longer willing to raise him and I do not blame them, they did more than enough when I was to strung out to be a parent. I wish I could undo my actions but I cant, I was addicted to meth and it consumed me completely. I realized this a little to late, my kids had already "grown up" without me even noticing. I understand my son not listening to me, I am a recovering addict who was never there for him, he has no respect for me, this I deserve, but I know where he is headed and would give my life to stop it so he doesn't turn out like me. My niece will continue to look online for help for me but any suggestions or knowledge about help in the Killeen area is much appreciated.
This is finished, I am not popular on this board, this I accept.But please if anyone has any knowledge of any resources for my Aunt I would be very appreciative. I have looked for days for programs and most require a hefty payment, my aunt has very little money. If anyone has any knowledge for them we would be grateful. My cousin is destroying his life with very bad and dangerous decisions. Although he does little work and ditches school he makes As on the work he does do, all without even paying attention to the teacher. His teacher told my aunt he has a very high IQ and if he applied himself just a bit could possibly even be moved up a grade or even two!!! He could have such a bright future, please help us help him.
Im posting for my Aunt, she has no internet access but has called me asking to help her. I will type as she talks.
I have a 15 yr old son. My son refuses to attend school, he drinks, smokes cigarettes and pot( i fear he is on other drugs as well), and scares me at times. I am 5 feet tall and very thin I weight only 110 pounds. My son is 6 feet tall and weighs 160. The times I have attempted to ground him he leaves pushing me out of the way. I have called the police and unless he really hurts me there is nothing they can do. He insults the teachers and was suspended for calling the principal a dirty name just two weeks before school let out. I have paid fines for truancy over and over and have told the judge whats going on and he says that I have to figure it out and fines me 500 dollars. I am at fault for this. I was a drug user for many years, just got clean 2 years ago. I neglected him and shuffled him around between my sisters and other family. We have tried family counseling, we have done individual counseling and he will not talk. Last time he spat in the counselors face and walked out. The counselor said that unless he is willing to open up about him being angry than nothing is going to help him. he recently has began to hang out with members of a gang that call themselves the Bloods. I called the police and told them this, their response was to not let him associate with them in anyway. My son also recently went to his sisters house and punched her, she is 19, she ( this may sound bad) punched him back blooding his nose and then called the police. No charges where filed against anyone. I have looked all over for help, I have found "homes" but I cannot afford the services they provide, one wanted 2000 for the first six months. I work in a nursing home as the activities director, I make 9 an hour but just barley pay the bills. His father is in prison for rape and other charges. No one can control him, no one can talk to him, he is angry at the world and I know my actions caused this but I have no idea how to undo what I have done. I have read books, I have went to parenting classes, I have gone to counseling and still go. Is there any help for my son? Any programs that do not require so much money. I know its bad but sometimes I wish he were in jail. He says he is not mad at me for what I have done but that he didn't need me growing up and dont need me now. He acted like this with other family but not as bad but my family is no longer willing to raise him and I do not blame them, they did more than enough when I was to strung out to be a parent. I wish I could undo my actions but I cant, I was addicted to meth and it consumed me completely. I realized this a little to late, my kids had already "grown up" without me even noticing. I understand my son not listening to me, I am a recovering addict who was never there for him, he has no respect for me, this I deserve, but I know where he is headed and would give my life to stop it so he doesn't turn out like me. My niece will continue to look online for help for me but any suggestions or knowledge about help in the Killeen area is much appreciated.
This is finished, I am not popular on this board, this I accept.But please if anyone has any knowledge of any resources for my Aunt I would be very appreciative. I have looked for days for programs and most require a hefty payment, my aunt has very little money. If anyone has any knowledge for them we would be grateful. My cousin is destroying his life with very bad and dangerous decisions. Although he does little work and ditches school he makes As on the work he does do, all without even paying attention to the teacher. His teacher told my aunt he has a very high IQ and if he applied himself just a bit could possibly even be moved up a grade or even two!!! He could have such a bright future, please help us help him.
