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DK1

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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ

My wife and I have been married for few months and are splitting up (we both agree on this). All the one sided propaganda she’s been telling her parents and friends have turned her father and friends angry and threatening towards me.

I owned the house for years prior to knowing her and I am raising my son from a different relationship in this house. The first phase of move out on her part was okay until her friend and father showed up. They were confrontational and threatening. Do I have any rights to not have these people on the property or to change the locks?

Also, is there an easy way to divorce in NJ after a few months? I think I know the answer but have to ask since the court required documents I read state married for 6 months….. Also she has not been a NJ resident for 12 months and that was another requirement of the court documents. If someone can shed light on these requirements for me, I’d appreciate it.
 


LdiJ

Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ

My wife and I have been married for few months and are splitting up (we both agree on this). All the one sided propaganda she’s been telling her parents and friends have turned her father and friends angry and threatening towards me.

I owned the house for years prior to knowing her and I am raising my son from a different relationship in this house. The first phase of move out on her part was okay until her friend and father showed up. They were confrontational and threatening. Do I have any rights to not have these people on the property or to change the locks?

Also, is there an easy way to divorce in NJ after a few months? I think I know the answer but have to ask since the court required documents I read state married for 6 months….. Also she has not been a NJ resident for 12 months and that was another requirement of the court documents. If someone can shed light on these requirements for me, I’d appreciate it.
You cannot lock her out of the marital home or prohibit her from having guests there until such time as a court orders that you have exclusive use of the marital home.

Next time she is there moving things out either talk to her ahead of time and ask her to restrain her father and friend(s) and/or try to have a neutral person there that her father and friend would be unlikely to act up around.
 

mistoffolees

Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ

My wife and I have been married for few months and are splitting up (we both agree on this). All the one sided propaganda she’s been telling her parents and friends have turned her father and friends angry and threatening towards me.

I owned the house for years prior to knowing her and I am raising my son from a different relationship in this house. The first phase of move out on her part was okay until her friend and father showed up. They were confrontational and threatening. Do I have any rights to not have these people on the property or to change the locks?

Also, is there an easy way to divorce in NJ after a few months? I think I know the answer but have to ask since the court required documents I read state married for 6 months….. Also she has not been a NJ resident for 12 months and that was another requirement of the court documents. If someone can shed light on these requirements for me, I’d appreciate it.
You've already gotten the answer on the home. However, note that if she takes marital property, you can ask for her to be ordered to account for it during the divorce. So make sure you have an inventory of any marital property she takes

As for the divorce requirements:
New Jersey Divorce Requirements

One of you has to be a NJ resident for a year.
 

DK1

Member
Thank you for the advice.


During our relationship our finances were very separate and the only marital property would be our wedding gifts. She still owns her house and I still own mine (the marital house). We were married and lived together for a few months. She is moving back into her home.

Assuming we both agree that this should be handled as "irreconcilable differences" and agree on how to divide the wedding gifts, what needs to be addressed in the order so that we can proceed with our lives as if this never happened? Specifically, since my home was the marital home, what needs to be addressed so that it goes back to being just my (and my son's) home? Are there any other typical concerns that need to be addressed, like pensions, retirement savings, or anything else (not that either of us are interseted in the others but, how to make a clean break)? Is there a blanket statement for this type of thing and where would it go in the court documents?

Any chance the court would agree to an annulment?
 
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Proserpina

Senior Member
Thank you for the advice.

I looked over the forms / papers needed to get the divorce and it doesn't seem too complicated. I'm well aware that looks can be deceiving and I do not want this to come back to haunt me down the road.

During our relationship our finances were very separate and the only marital property would be our wedding gifts. She still owns her house and I still own mine (the marital house). We were married and lived together for a few months.

Assuming we both agree that this should be handled as "irreconcilable differences" and agree on how to divide the wedding gifts, what needs to be addressed in the order so that we can proceed with our lives as if this never happened? Specifically, since my home was the marital home, what needs to be addressed so that it goes back to being just my (and my son's) home? Are there any other typical concerns that need to be addressed, like our pensions, retirement savings, or anything else? Is there a blanket statement for this type of thing and where would it go in the court documents?

Any chance the court would agree to an annulment?


You have shown no reason why an annulment would be appropriate here.
 

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