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cheyjr

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What is the name of your state? Maryland
my husband has 2 children from a previous marriage, one whom he adopted, he wants to give up his parental rights and not be responisble for child support anymore. how can he do this and be sure hes no longer finacially responsible?
 


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h0rsepwr

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cheyjr said:
What is the name of your state? Maryland
my husband has 2 children from a previous marriage, one whom he adopted, he wants to give up his parental rights and not be responisble for child support anymore. how can he do this and be sure hes no longer finacially responsible?
He can't.
 

Ambr

Senior Member
You husband wants to sign away his rights to his children and not be financially responsible for them anymore?

That's not that easy to do and there is a very good reason why it ain't easy. Children need BOTH parents and that includes the love and support of BOTH parents.

The only advice I have to offer on this one - and yes, you did ask for the advice of the boards when you typed your post.

Any parent - male or female - who is willing to give up their children just to relieve their financial burden is not a person that I would personally want to get involved with in any way, shape or manner - much less think of marriage with this person.

I would seriously re-think that relationship.

It is going to be really interesting to see the responses to this one.

JMO - remember, you asked!!!!
 
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cheyjr

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before you judge....we have a son thas is in the hospital and has been for months, we can barely afford to eat. his kids dont want anything to do with him because his ex brainwashed them, i do know the results of the effects is has on kids, i myself have a father that gave me up, but its better then back and forth with things going into the kids head about one parent from another, i know, i had both experiences and its easier to just get away from the situation just like when parents choose to put kids up for adoption, its best for the kids.....a stable family with a step father is better then dysfunctional. Take it from someone who knows.
 
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KCMR

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sick

He can't...
He can give up his rights as a parent ,sure... but guess what? he'll still have to pay.

Why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want their own child?
 
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KCMR

Guest
If she is brainwashing them why don't you petition for custody?
 
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cheyjr

Guest
The oldest child is not his, and the youngest she says isnt either but we dont have 1200.00 to pay for paternity and honestly i want to be with him because this is my idea, like i said ive been the kid in this situation.
 

Ambr

Senior Member
cheyjr said:
The oldest child is not his, and the youngest she says isnt either
Wrong - he adopted one of those children and when he did that, BOTH children became his. He signed on for all of the rights and responsibilities of the father.

Kids have a hard enough time with a divorce / separation of their parents. If the mother is as bad as you say, she has probably told them that dad wants to give them away - which doesn't help with their attitude towards dad.

I don't even believe I am going here - but when he "mated," so to speak, with their mother he took on the responsibility of the child. When he adopted, he took on the responsiblity of the child. He had those obligations before he met you and before he had other children.

You can't just give up on your children because you have other children who need you. He needs to be there for ALL of his children.

We are not unsympathetic to you - its just that most of the posters on this board are fighting to keep their rights to their children, regardless of the cost.
 
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KCMR

Guest
To each their own.
Personally I don't think you should persuade your husband to give up his parental rights. AFTERALL they are HIS parental rights.

Seems to me it's hitting you in the pocket...and that is why you want to discard these children.

Whatever the case may be...you aren't going to get out of paying child support, unless the mother agrees to let him off the hook in exchange for his parental rights.

Also, I'm sorry but didn't you say he adopted this child? Doesn't that mean the child is his? last time I checked it did.

Have you ever been the child of a parent who didn't want you?
Perhaps that is more painful. Why don't you ask the children involved if they agree to this before you go making your husband give away his own flesh and blood.

I sincerely hope your son gets better.
 
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cheyjr

Guest
I dont need to ask children what it feels like, im one of them and i benefited from haveing my father out of my life rather then my mother and him arguing and putting me in the middle all the time. im leaving this forum, i actually thought this was legal advice not others opinions.my mistake. thanks for your opinions but we still are doing what WE think is right.
 

CMSC

Senior Member
First of all, I don't agree with giving up rights to bio children to get out of paying for support. I also don't agree with saying adopted children aren't your own BUT with that said, my husband adopted his ex's child, he is giving up his rights to that child because the bio dad would like to be in the child's life. My husband has not seen this boy for 4 years and doesn't want to, the child doesn't want to see him either, it isn't that they hate each other but they just aren't a part of each others lives. So I can see in this situation that if your husband was not in the adopted child's life long and bio dad is willing to step up then terminating your rights maybe the best thing.

BUT, to give up rights so you don't have to pay support is absolutely UNACCEPTABLE!

You did say that, "a stable family with a step father is better then dysfunctional. " Does that mean he would like the step father to adopt the children? If so then he would no longer be obligated to pay support, nor would he get to see them grow up, play ball, ride bikes, attend school, get married, have kids of their own...well you get the picture.

Is he paying support now? Or is he behind? He could always try to modify the order using current child's illness and medical expense as a reason to get it lowered...but I am not certain it would work.

Good luck really, I hope it works out.
 
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KCMR

Guest
BYE

Glad to see you go.
Sorry all... but any step parent that suggest to the bio parent that they should give up parental rights to get out of paying support ((which is what she said)) is just sick.
Just my opinion of course.
 

CMSC

Senior Member
Re: BYE

Aricci said:
Glad to see you go.
Sorry all... but any step parent that suggest to the bio parent that they should give up parental rights to get out of paying support ((which is what she said)) is just sick.
Just my opinion of course.
First of all, I have been on here a hell of alot longer than you and I am not glad to see this poster go. She has been polite and is just asking for help. Her situation is not something you approve of but that gives you NO RIGHT to escort her to the door! She in no way suggested that her husband did not want to give up his rights and that she was forcing him to do it, you read between the lines and sometimes that just doesn't work!
As far as you bashing this step parent, there are a lot of step parents on here seeking advice for their spouses, it would be nice if the bio parent themselves came on here and told their stories but if you have been here long you will see that these steps are just trying to help in making life for the children better.

Sounds like this poster has a lot of stress and for you to shoo her away like that is not right! Maybe you should go and don't let the door hit you in the butt on the way out!
 

kat1963

Senior Member
Aricci? Where are your helpful suggestions for this poster? You have never been in this situation and heaven willing you never will be. You have no clue. Your posts are nothing but rude and condescending. You offer NOTHING by way of advice.

cheyjr, he can file to terminate his parental rights, but as the other posters suggested, it still does not cancel out his support obligation....so, he's still going to be a wallet. In addition, judges don't like to *******ize children. However, you didn't mention the age of the children, if he's not being allowed any input into their lives, terminating his parental rights will (for the most part) prevent any lawsuits coming his way should the children be the cause of death, injury or destruction of property to another person to which the parents would be found liable. With no custody equaling no control usually means not liable. Much case history on this.

Good Luck.

KAT
 

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