Since the thread was deleted and I thought this info pertinent...

[CJane]

What is the name of your state? WI

One question...

Not to sound rude but, are you a lawyer?

Nope. Just a person who's BTDT more times than I care to count with an ex that I PROMISE YOU is WAY crazier than yours ever will be. And I just keep on winning.

I just got done talking to one that a friend of mine contacted and said there is no way that she will be able to get away with this. something how the divorce was just granted less then 6 months ago and she can only file for child support once a year or something to that affect.

Unless there's a change in circumstances. You moving... change in circumstances.

Was the court made aware of your pending move when ordering the current time share?

We were supposed to go to mediation when I got my orders and she is just as responsible to make the appointment as myself.

Not so much. YOU'RE the one who's requiring the change.

Yes, I might not get 50/50 but I should still keep my 47% of the time as the decree states.

But you won't. You. Just. Won't.

Let me guess... you're stationed near Great Lakes right now... and you're going to Norfolk.

That's 15 hours in the car each way. You REALLY want your child spending that much time at the beginning and end of the month so that you can maintain your visitation at 47%? You can't see WHY that might be an unfair thing to do to your child?

Along with that, we are both responsible for our OWN transportation costs as the decree and mediation paperwork states.

Yes. TODAY.

Not once you move and a new parenting plan has to be instituted.

 

[kenski]

What is the name of your state? WI



Nope. Just a person who's BTDT more times than I care to count with an ex that I PROMISE YOU is WAY crazier than yours ever will be. And I just keep on winning.



Unless there's a change in circumstances. You moving... change in circumstances.

Was the court made aware of your pending move when ordering the current time share?



Not so much. YOU'RE the one who's requiring the change.



But you won't. You. Just. Won't.

Let me guess... you're stationed near Great Lakes right now... and you're going to Norfolk.

That's 15 hours in the car each way. You REALLY want your child spending that much time at the beginning and end of the month so that you can maintain your visitation at 47%? You can't see WHY that might be an unfair thing to do to your child?



Yes. TODAY.

Not once you move and a new parenting plan has to be instituted.

The courts have ben 100% aware of the situation of my transfer. Right from the start. Like I said, I was supposed to transfer before the divorce and my ex was coming down. 2 months before the transfer she filed. She had all the paper work ready 3 months before that.

SHE wants the change not me. I am happy with my 47%


Well, tell you what. 15 hours once a month or spending NO time with the other parent.. Hmmmm..... Yeah, I think that is pretty damn ok to me.

well you know, I had more but its not worth it any more. I found the answer I was looking for. I see everyone here just looks stuff up on the internet, I could of done the same thing myself and I did.

 

[Silverplum]

well you know, I had more but its not worth it any more. I found the answer I was looking for. I see everyone here just looks stuff up on the internet, I could of done the same thing myself and I did.

Good. That's what we tell people to do....as in, "Google is your friend."

Go forth. And seriously, dude? You got at least $1,000 worth of FREE advice today. All valid. Then you deleted it because you're pissy, and needless to say, have been unremittingly pissy -- at us. Uncool of you. We're not your X. We just tried to help.

 

[kenski]

Good. That's what we tell people to do....as in, "Google is your friend."

Go forth. And seriously, dude? You got at least $1,000 worth of FREE advice today. All valid. Then you deleted it because you're pissy, and needless to say, have been unremittingly pissy -- at us. Uncool of you. We're not your X. We just tried to help.

hehehehe.... $1000 worth of free advice? are you serious? you just kept telling saying "YOUR SCEWED" "YOU DONT KNOW WHAT YOUR TALKIGN ABOUT". How is that advice? you sound like the X.

Its not worth it I guess. I deleted it because Im not going to argue with "INTERNET LAWYERS".... Just as bad as "INTERNET MECHANICS".... I thought maybe I would get real advice. Guess not, get what you pay for I guess huh. "FREEADVICE FORUMS"

 

[Just Blue]

hehehehe.... $1000 worth of free advice? are you serious? you just kept telling saying "YOUR SCEWED" "YOU DONT KNOW WHAT YOUR TALKIGN ABOUT". How is that advice? you sound like the X.

Its not worth it I guess. I deleted it because Im not going to argue with "INTERNET LAWYERS".... Just as bad as "INTERNET MECHANICS".... I thought maybe I would get real advice. Guess not, get what you pay for I guess huh. "FREEADVICE FORUMS"

Go and hire an attorney. Leave. No one is forcing you to stay here.

 

[JacobJoel]

you have no clue or appreciation of who these people are, the depth of their knowledge or how valuable their time is that they DONATE (because they actually care) to the consumer who needs what they can't afford (that would be you).

 

[kenski]

you are bitter and a disgrace to your uniform right now. not to mention ignorant.

you have no clue or appreciation of who these people are, the depth of their knowledge or how valuable their time is that they DONATE (because they actually care) to the consumer who needs what they can't afford (that would be you).

hope you made a copy of what you deleted because you will find yourself paying for what you were GIVEN.

don't blame your daughter for your desire to live on a ship.

here is a Marine joke: what is a navy port o call?

it's when 100 men leave ship and 50 couples return.

sincerely, sergeant bp, USMC

Nothing given to me was of any help. Hiring an attorney was the last thing I wanted to do but I guess its better then listening to bad advice.


Hahahah, USMC, ok. crack on the Navy oh thats professional.

 

[HomeGuru]

hehehehe.... $1000 worth of free advice? are you serious? you just kept telling saying "YOUR SCEWED" "YOU DONT KNOW WHAT YOUR TALKIGN ABOUT". How is that advice? you sound like the X.

Its not worth it I guess. I deleted it because Im not going to argue with "INTERNET LAWYERS".... Just as bad as "INTERNET MECHANICS".... I thought maybe I would get real advice. Guess not, get what you pay for I guess huh. "FREEADVICE FORUMS"

**A: you need more than legal help. We'll pray for you.

 

[Silverplum]

Nothing given to me was of any help.

No? Really? Those informative links provided to legal sites showing you exactly how to compute WI CS were of no use whatsoever?

Guess not, when you don't read them.

Hiring an attorney was the last thing I wanted to do but I guess its better then listening to bad advice.

DO be sure to come back and tell the truth. We can handle it. It'll go something like this:
Dear, dear FA Members--you were so very correct, and thank you for helping me grasp some of the things I had misunderstood, such as how to calculate CS in WI, and what to expect when I move.

Hahahah, USMC, ok. crack on the Navy oh thats professional.

Are you actually NEW to the Navy? You said you had several years in. The USMC vs Navy jokies never made it your way? Naw. No way.

The fact that you literally get pissy over a USMC vs Navy jokie -- a tradition of over 200 years, I believe, and kept vigorously alive in my own family -- shows how very unremittingly pissy you are.

 

[profmum]

I wanted to respond earlier but the thread got deleted. Now to the Navy servicemen, my ex is a USMC Major, he was deployed for most of our marriage, he returned and wanted 50-50 parenting, he got it ONLY because he left active duty and went IRR. The judge was very clear that if he was to continue active duty whether it was in CA or as in your case VA (stateside), he would get standard visitation for long distance parenting. He CHOSE to leave the Marines with 10 years left to go.. just like you to be part of his daugther's life (your posts are making me defend my ex yikes!!!) and now he is a civilian and we do 50-50 and live about 10 mins apart. We dont get along really, but through email and txts are managing fine.

On the other hand, a friend of mine, a USAF Major, moved to DC from NM. He has a 4 yr old. He and his ex have decided to do 3 months with each parent, with the non residential parent coming to see the child twice a month. It is a little strange, but the distance ( a 5 hr drive) seems to make it work. They use the same preschool chain so the child is getting the same curricullum in NM or CO. Whe she starts school, and the Major moves to the Pentagon, they plan to do 6 months on and 6 months off and are figuring out the logistics of that. But the parents appear to get along well enough to do so. They have a 50-50 schedule this way.

So you either can chose to leave the Navy and do what my ex did or work with your ex to create a unique parenting plan that still may allow you the 50-50.

I will tell you this in my parenting plan, even though ex is IRR, it is very clear, that should he get deployed again and depending on the length of the deployment etc, he has integrate back into our daughter's life and work back up to 50-50, assuming he is going to be back in CO. And if he is deployed for more than 2 years and the current 50-50 will revisited.

 

[CJane]

Whe she starts school, and the Major moves to the Pentagon, they plan to do 6 months on and 6 months off and are figuring out the logistics of that. But the parents appear to get along well enough to do so. They have a 50-50 schedule this way.

Your friends should be aware that while this is POSSIBLE and while it's even possible a judge will sign off on it, if either parent challenges it, it is VERY unlikely to be ordered/upheld.

 

[LdiJ]

Your friends should be aware that while this is POSSIBLE and while it's even possible a judge will sign off on it, if either parent challenges it, it is VERY unlikely to be ordered/upheld.

There is absolutely nothing more disruptive to a child's stability, and schooling, than what they are proposing to do.

Once the child gets to be an adolescent, she will absolutely HATE it...maybe even sooner than that. No child will want to leave their friends and school every semester.

 

[profmum]

Your friends should be aware that while this is POSSIBLE and while it's even possible a judge will sign off on it, if either parent challenges it, it is VERY unlikely to be ordered/upheld.

I completely agree and since he and his ex avoided the courts in getting their agreement together, I did remind him of this after the Courts ratified the agreement. It will be interesting to see if this works out, as the ex, according to him is already showing signs of discontent! Personally, I am not a big fan of it, the child gets bounced around every 3 months from school to school and this is preschool now.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

If there is a distance order entered, make sure it contains provisions for using some of the current technology to stay in contact. I refer to webcams ... emails ... phone calls ... etc.

When my 18 yo traveled to South America with my mother when she was 5 for an extended stay to visit family, I tape recorded for her stories that I read A LOT. I tape recorded our night time prayers. Dad tape recorded the same. I heard afterwards that was one of the best things that I ever did for my daughter.