NiceGuyinMich
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Michigan
17 years ago, I had a one night stand with this certain woman. I was at the bar with friends as she was. We knew each other and she recently broke up with her boyfriend and she was on a mission to get drunk. She kept ordering shots of tequila (6 each total). Her friends wanted to leave and so she asked me to give her a ride home. She invited me in and we were both in one of those "stupid drunk" states. We ended up getting naked and started fooling around and eventually passed out. The next morning when we woke up, she asked me how she got undressed and I told her we got undressed and stated fooling around but that I think we passed out before anything happened. She said she couldn't remember anything past being at the bar. It was an awkward moment and I asked her if she wanted me to leave and she said yes and so I did. I have seen her around over the years and never heard anything bad about me from her but she was never really friendly towards me after that night but I didn't think much of it. 17 years later, I was at the local hangout for our small town where I had seen her often but never had any problems with her. She is a waitress at an upscale restaurant that I have been to on many occasion without any problems. Recently, she began dating a bartender at the local hangout and have seen her up there many times recently. All of a sudden one night they were up there, the bartender (her boyfriend) called me aside and told me that I wasn't allowed up there anymore and that I will not be served by any of the bartenders there even if he is not working up there. When I asked to talk to the Manager about this, I was told she wasn't there and to leave and not come back. When I asked why, he said because you raped my girlfriend a long time ago. I told him this was a lie and then told him the whole story of what happened. He told me he would talk to her about it and then get back with me through one of my friends. Since then, I have found out she has been telling everyone that will listen that I was a rapist and that she gets upset when she is around me, she asked him to have me barred from the bar. Isn't this proof of Slander and Defamation?
I am a nice guy and consider myself a gentleman (really). My life was going great career wise, I had been working out, I'm considered attractive and have never had anything like this happen in my life before. Since all of this, I have had trouble sleeping, alot of anxiety, stress and have just been miserable. I feel as if I do nothing and just try to move on, people will think I must be guilty. I've thought of moving to another city but I like it there and I know in my heart I did nothing wrong. I want to sue her for Slander and Defamation but if it's just a big waste then I won't even bother. I don't want any money, I just want her to stop telling these lies as my name and reputation have been damaged forever as fas as I can tell.
Can anyone offer any advice on if I would have a case or how I should try and go about this?
Thanking all in advance for any advice. thank you
17 years ago, I had a one night stand with this certain woman. I was at the bar with friends as she was. We knew each other and she recently broke up with her boyfriend and she was on a mission to get drunk. She kept ordering shots of tequila (6 each total). Her friends wanted to leave and so she asked me to give her a ride home. She invited me in and we were both in one of those "stupid drunk" states. We ended up getting naked and started fooling around and eventually passed out. The next morning when we woke up, she asked me how she got undressed and I told her we got undressed and stated fooling around but that I think we passed out before anything happened. She said she couldn't remember anything past being at the bar. It was an awkward moment and I asked her if she wanted me to leave and she said yes and so I did. I have seen her around over the years and never heard anything bad about me from her but she was never really friendly towards me after that night but I didn't think much of it. 17 years later, I was at the local hangout for our small town where I had seen her often but never had any problems with her. She is a waitress at an upscale restaurant that I have been to on many occasion without any problems. Recently, she began dating a bartender at the local hangout and have seen her up there many times recently. All of a sudden one night they were up there, the bartender (her boyfriend) called me aside and told me that I wasn't allowed up there anymore and that I will not be served by any of the bartenders there even if he is not working up there. When I asked to talk to the Manager about this, I was told she wasn't there and to leave and not come back. When I asked why, he said because you raped my girlfriend a long time ago. I told him this was a lie and then told him the whole story of what happened. He told me he would talk to her about it and then get back with me through one of my friends. Since then, I have found out she has been telling everyone that will listen that I was a rapist and that she gets upset when she is around me, she asked him to have me barred from the bar. Isn't this proof of Slander and Defamation?
I am a nice guy and consider myself a gentleman (really). My life was going great career wise, I had been working out, I'm considered attractive and have never had anything like this happen in my life before. Since all of this, I have had trouble sleeping, alot of anxiety, stress and have just been miserable. I feel as if I do nothing and just try to move on, people will think I must be guilty. I've thought of moving to another city but I like it there and I know in my heart I did nothing wrong. I want to sue her for Slander and Defamation but if it's just a big waste then I won't even bother. I don't want any money, I just want her to stop telling these lies as my name and reputation have been damaged forever as fas as I can tell.
Can anyone offer any advice on if I would have a case or how I should try and go about this?
Thanking all in advance for any advice. thank you