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I am posting to find out if I have any legal recourse regarding a current situation. I recently started dating a man who is going through a messy divorce. We are coworkers and were friends before he separated. We became good friends over the years but were just that - friends. Throughout his marriage, I tried to get to know his wife and tried to become friends with her. She immediately hated me and felt threatened by me and forbade her husband from any contact with me. Because of a prior volitile relationship I had, he felt comfortable talking to me about his long standing marital issues. I constantly prodded him to get marital counseling - although he wanted to follow path, his wife refused. Eventually, his wife left him with little or no explanation as to why. When he tried to get them both into counseling, she refused. She filed for divorce with no explanation as to why and would not go for counseling or family therapy.
The main reason for many of their marital issues and eventual break up was her controlling behavior and mental health issues. She has been fired from jobs b/c of her inability to get along with people and tell the truth. She lost friendships and family relationships b/c of her controlling and manipulative personality. She also has a long standing history of mental health issues in her family and is currently undergoing psychiatric counseling.
When the two arrived at court for preliminary custody hearings, she blamed the break up on 'ongoing marital issues', ie monitary issues and psychological distress. The judge found that her claims were baseless. She did not get what she was asking for from the court. Up until now, everything she has done to win back 'control' has backfired.
We recently got together and moved from friendship to more - its been a tough road b/c of his current situation and some anxiety I have about dating someone I work with who is not fully divorced. My anxiety has only been heightened by the events of this last week.
This past week, I ran into mutual friends who know all three of us very well. I found out from this source that the soon to be ex-wife has been telling several of my coworkers that I broke up their marriage. In addition, she said that I had done this before to another man. She has told them that her husband left her for me and that I ruined their relationship. These are absolutely, false, baseless claims. None of these claims were ever discussed in court, discovery motions or filings. In not one of the hearings for this divorce was I ever mentioned. The claim about previous similar behavior is also absolutely false.
Because this was said to coworkers, I am afraid this rumor will get out at work and my reputation will be damaged. Is there anything I can do legally about this? My boyfriend has already addressed this with his attorney and she said all we can do is show that this contributes to her pattern of stretching/manipulating the truth for her own gain. I don't want to jeopardize a budding relationship, but at the same time, I don't want my name dragged through the dirt for something that is untrue.
I am posting to find out if I have any legal recourse regarding a current situation. I recently started dating a man who is going through a messy divorce. We are coworkers and were friends before he separated. We became good friends over the years but were just that - friends. Throughout his marriage, I tried to get to know his wife and tried to become friends with her. She immediately hated me and felt threatened by me and forbade her husband from any contact with me. Because of a prior volitile relationship I had, he felt comfortable talking to me about his long standing marital issues. I constantly prodded him to get marital counseling - although he wanted to follow path, his wife refused. Eventually, his wife left him with little or no explanation as to why. When he tried to get them both into counseling, she refused. She filed for divorce with no explanation as to why and would not go for counseling or family therapy.
The main reason for many of their marital issues and eventual break up was her controlling behavior and mental health issues. She has been fired from jobs b/c of her inability to get along with people and tell the truth. She lost friendships and family relationships b/c of her controlling and manipulative personality. She also has a long standing history of mental health issues in her family and is currently undergoing psychiatric counseling.
When the two arrived at court for preliminary custody hearings, she blamed the break up on 'ongoing marital issues', ie monitary issues and psychological distress. The judge found that her claims were baseless. She did not get what she was asking for from the court. Up until now, everything she has done to win back 'control' has backfired.
We recently got together and moved from friendship to more - its been a tough road b/c of his current situation and some anxiety I have about dating someone I work with who is not fully divorced. My anxiety has only been heightened by the events of this last week.
This past week, I ran into mutual friends who know all three of us very well. I found out from this source that the soon to be ex-wife has been telling several of my coworkers that I broke up their marriage. In addition, she said that I had done this before to another man. She has told them that her husband left her for me and that I ruined their relationship. These are absolutely, false, baseless claims. None of these claims were ever discussed in court, discovery motions or filings. In not one of the hearings for this divorce was I ever mentioned. The claim about previous similar behavior is also absolutely false.
Because this was said to coworkers, I am afraid this rumor will get out at work and my reputation will be damaged. Is there anything I can do legally about this? My boyfriend has already addressed this with his attorney and she said all we can do is show that this contributes to her pattern of stretching/manipulating the truth for her own gain. I don't want to jeopardize a budding relationship, but at the same time, I don't want my name dragged through the dirt for something that is untrue.