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flana1096
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What is the name of your state? PA
I just looking to see if we have a leg to stand on, if needed, regarding slander. Here goes – within the last year we moved into a new development of homes and were one of the 1st to settle in this 2nd phase of homes. As more and more families moved in, we would all gather and talk at in the morning. I would say that probably most of us have lived in a development before and know that some neighbors you will be friends with, some you’ll be “neighborly” with, and some you might or might not even wave too. There are 99 homes and there is no way that everyone is going to be friends. My neighbors across the street moved in about 3 months after us and is one who “likes to party” (she’s 35, he’s 38, and they have 2 daughters 11 & 14). At first it was nice getting to know all our neighbors and hanging out (we’re 29 & 30) but when someone is trying to do it weekend after weekend – it gets old pretty fast – and my husband and I have a life that goes beyond our neighborhood.
To summarize the last 6 months – little comments that this neighbor would say get back to me and my husband that were petty (and not true) and I would try to run interference and in the long run pretty much blow it off. I have a nice core of friends/neighbors here that have pretty much told her that she’s a lair and that they don’t want to hear it anymore. I believe for some reason that she is threatened by my personality – I’m not one to “kiss-a@@” and I am known to be pretty straight-forward – and feels that she has to try to come across that she is “better than me” (gosh, I know this sounds like an after school program drama, lol) We have had birthday parties, gatherings, etc where I have just chosen not to invite this family – thinking that she would just get the hint and keep her mouth shut. I have asked her nicely after an incident if we could talk and just came out and asked her to her face if she had a problem with me or my husband, why certain things were said, etc. Of course she denied everything (“ don’t you know that we love your family…I would never say anything…blah, blah, blah”) I believe my mistake at that point was not calling up the neighbor who had told me about the most recent comment at that time but I didn’t want to get into this “he said, she said” thing and thought I could handle this in an adult way. Most of her comments occur when she has been drinking so they are usually pretty off the wall (you can’t help and think, “Does she actually believe herself?” “Does she think ANYONE would actually believe her given her track record”?) She has caused trouble for other neighbors who, luckily for them, don’t live on our street. They can ignore her since they can avoid her – we can’t since. It has gotten to a point that I just sit here and fume over this woman. There are now kids involved and I will not tolerate my kids (who are 9 & 5) coming to me and saying that this woman’s kids are saying that their mommy (me) is mean to their mom and that I’m making everyone hate their mom, etc… How do I explain to my kids that this woman is nuts and most be extremely insecure? I have watched everything that I have said to anyone – anything I have every said about this woman would be something that I would say to her face if I was confronted about it.
The latest comment that I heard was yesterday and it has crossed the line. The comments in the past started out with: Alison & Dave (our real names) think they are better than us, Alison is trying to keep me out of the “loop”, Dave wants me, Dave has fondled her, Dave has frenched-kissed her during a party IN FRONT of her friends (of course who don’t live in the neighborhood), Dave has approached her about wanting to have sex with her, and it just goes on and on. It must sound like Dave is pretty busy trying to get it on with my neighbor – LOL.
The latest comments were that we are “swingers” (which just made me laugh and I can ignore that part) and that she has to watch out because my husband has been watching (described as almost stalking) her 2 daughters. In my opinion – that crossed the line. My husband would never do something like that and we were both sickened to hear that she would even suggest something like that
. God forbid that she tells someone that doesn’t know us or know us that well – in our neighborhood, at a school function (I’m pretty involved in our school’s parent assoc.) or at a sporting event (my husband coaches and I’m a board member within the organization)!!! Regardless of who it is and whether they believe it or not, it’s probably something that would stick in the back of their minds (I know it would in mine). The petty “she doesn’t like me” crap and even the trash talk about my husband “the sex-craved maniac” is one thing but once you get kids involved and talk as if it he is a child-predator – she has totally crossed the line and it’s all I can do not to go over there an beat her senseless (and I’m not a violent person to begin with) . I’m just fed up and it has to stop. I don’t know where to even start or even if we have a leg to stand on (I would like to even just threaten her with a lawsuit to possibly scare her enough to make her shut up). Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
Sorry for the long post….
I just looking to see if we have a leg to stand on, if needed, regarding slander. Here goes – within the last year we moved into a new development of homes and were one of the 1st to settle in this 2nd phase of homes. As more and more families moved in, we would all gather and talk at in the morning. I would say that probably most of us have lived in a development before and know that some neighbors you will be friends with, some you’ll be “neighborly” with, and some you might or might not even wave too. There are 99 homes and there is no way that everyone is going to be friends. My neighbors across the street moved in about 3 months after us and is one who “likes to party” (she’s 35, he’s 38, and they have 2 daughters 11 & 14). At first it was nice getting to know all our neighbors and hanging out (we’re 29 & 30) but when someone is trying to do it weekend after weekend – it gets old pretty fast – and my husband and I have a life that goes beyond our neighborhood.
To summarize the last 6 months – little comments that this neighbor would say get back to me and my husband that were petty (and not true) and I would try to run interference and in the long run pretty much blow it off. I have a nice core of friends/neighbors here that have pretty much told her that she’s a lair and that they don’t want to hear it anymore. I believe for some reason that she is threatened by my personality – I’m not one to “kiss-a@@” and I am known to be pretty straight-forward – and feels that she has to try to come across that she is “better than me” (gosh, I know this sounds like an after school program drama, lol) We have had birthday parties, gatherings, etc where I have just chosen not to invite this family – thinking that she would just get the hint and keep her mouth shut. I have asked her nicely after an incident if we could talk and just came out and asked her to her face if she had a problem with me or my husband, why certain things were said, etc. Of course she denied everything (“ don’t you know that we love your family…I would never say anything…blah, blah, blah”) I believe my mistake at that point was not calling up the neighbor who had told me about the most recent comment at that time but I didn’t want to get into this “he said, she said” thing and thought I could handle this in an adult way. Most of her comments occur when she has been drinking so they are usually pretty off the wall (you can’t help and think, “Does she actually believe herself?” “Does she think ANYONE would actually believe her given her track record”?) She has caused trouble for other neighbors who, luckily for them, don’t live on our street. They can ignore her since they can avoid her – we can’t since. It has gotten to a point that I just sit here and fume over this woman. There are now kids involved and I will not tolerate my kids (who are 9 & 5) coming to me and saying that this woman’s kids are saying that their mommy (me) is mean to their mom and that I’m making everyone hate their mom, etc… How do I explain to my kids that this woman is nuts and most be extremely insecure? I have watched everything that I have said to anyone – anything I have every said about this woman would be something that I would say to her face if I was confronted about it.
The latest comment that I heard was yesterday and it has crossed the line. The comments in the past started out with: Alison & Dave (our real names) think they are better than us, Alison is trying to keep me out of the “loop”, Dave wants me, Dave has fondled her, Dave has frenched-kissed her during a party IN FRONT of her friends (of course who don’t live in the neighborhood), Dave has approached her about wanting to have sex with her, and it just goes on and on. It must sound like Dave is pretty busy trying to get it on with my neighbor – LOL.
The latest comments were that we are “swingers” (which just made me laugh and I can ignore that part) and that she has to watch out because my husband has been watching (described as almost stalking) her 2 daughters. In my opinion – that crossed the line. My husband would never do something like that and we were both sickened to hear that she would even suggest something like that
. God forbid that she tells someone that doesn’t know us or know us that well – in our neighborhood, at a school function (I’m pretty involved in our school’s parent assoc.) or at a sporting event (my husband coaches and I’m a board member within the organization)!!! Regardless of who it is and whether they believe it or not, it’s probably something that would stick in the back of their minds (I know it would in mine). The petty “she doesn’t like me” crap and even the trash talk about my husband “the sex-craved maniac” is one thing but once you get kids involved and talk as if it he is a child-predator – she has totally crossed the line and it’s all I can do not to go over there an beat her senseless (and I’m not a violent person to begin with) . I’m just fed up and it has to stop. I don’t know where to even start or even if we have a leg to stand on (I would like to even just threaten her with a lawsuit to possibly scare her enough to make her shut up). Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Sorry for the long post….