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A group of families meet often for get togethers and parties. The women/men in the group gossip a lot about other members who are not present then. And sometimes away from the party, some women gossip privately about others. My husband and I are part of that group. Sometimes I am passive but some times if I am involved I pitch in my views. Oflate the group has been dull because of some trivial misunderstandings between the members. Recently three of my close friends in the group are upset with me because someone in that group has told them that I told bad things about them. Now my friends are so upset they think I have lied to them and they wont tell me who it is or what it is that the person told inspite of me begging them so much. Now I am so shaken because I did not tell anything. I doubted one person in the group as she and I did not have a good relationship in the past. But last evening her husband calls my husband and tells him that your wife has to stop defaming my wife else I will have to pursue legal actions. I am so confused with the turn of events becasue I am in dark. I dont know if it is one person or a a group of people plotting to cause me pain or damage my reputation. The worst part is I dont even know what lie this other person has framed and told my friends. Unfortunately my so called friends are not helping me nor trusting me.
According to my husband this is happening to me because I am the most popular person in the group, who is active and bubbly. Hence I have become the target and scapegoat. My husband's advice is that I stay away from all these people instead of going behind them asking them what the problem is.
Is the person who is threatening action against me have a good chance just because there are 3 to 4 people who believe I am spreading rumors about them? What should I do?
I dont want to get any into any legal problems as I am very busy with my work and more so because I am an emotional person, I get hurt , fall sick easily because of stress and can breakdown easily.
But I want to protect myself and my reputation. What should I do? What should my next steps be? Please advice.
Thanks in advance.
Feeling lost and helpess. :-(
A group of families meet often for get togethers and parties. The women/men in the group gossip a lot about other members who are not present then. And sometimes away from the party, some women gossip privately about others. My husband and I are part of that group. Sometimes I am passive but some times if I am involved I pitch in my views. Oflate the group has been dull because of some trivial misunderstandings between the members. Recently three of my close friends in the group are upset with me because someone in that group has told them that I told bad things about them. Now my friends are so upset they think I have lied to them and they wont tell me who it is or what it is that the person told inspite of me begging them so much. Now I am so shaken because I did not tell anything. I doubted one person in the group as she and I did not have a good relationship in the past. But last evening her husband calls my husband and tells him that your wife has to stop defaming my wife else I will have to pursue legal actions. I am so confused with the turn of events becasue I am in dark. I dont know if it is one person or a a group of people plotting to cause me pain or damage my reputation. The worst part is I dont even know what lie this other person has framed and told my friends. Unfortunately my so called friends are not helping me nor trusting me.
According to my husband this is happening to me because I am the most popular person in the group, who is active and bubbly. Hence I have become the target and scapegoat. My husband's advice is that I stay away from all these people instead of going behind them asking them what the problem is.
Is the person who is threatening action against me have a good chance just because there are 3 to 4 people who believe I am spreading rumors about them? What should I do?
I dont want to get any into any legal problems as I am very busy with my work and more so because I am an emotional person, I get hurt , fall sick easily because of stress and can breakdown easily.
But I want to protect myself and my reputation. What should I do? What should my next steps be? Please advice.
Thanks in advance.
Feeling lost and helpess. :-(
