Sleeping arrangements.

[Aquariusfire]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TEXAS
What is the Texas law concerning children sleeping in the same room or bed as a parent or grandparent? One has autism and 2 have ADHD. The ages 10, 9, 8, 4, and 1. They have their own room, but end up in the parent's or grandparent's room before the night has ended. Finally pallets were placed on the floor for them so everyone could sleep at night.

 

[Zigner]

Who are you in this situation?

You DO know that children, parents and grandparents have shared rooms/beds for eons, right?

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TEXAS
What is the Texas law concerning children sleeping in the same room or bed as a parent or grandparent? One has autism and 2 have ADHD. The ages 10, 9, 8, 4, and 1. They have their own room, but end up in the parent's or grandparent's room before the night has ended. Finally pallets were placed on the floor for them so everyone could sleep at night.

 

[Antigone*]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TEXAS
What is the Texas law concerning children sleeping in the same room or bed as a parent or grandparent? One has autism and 2 have ADHD. The ages 10, 9, 8, 4, and 1. They have their own room, but end up in the parent's or grandparent's room before the night has ended. Finally pallets were placed on the floor for them so everyone could sleep at night.

I know of no law that states parents and grandparents can't share a bed with their children/grandchildren.

 

[Aquariusfire]

yes. The mother is trying to do the right thing so she doesn't lose her children.
She will make the necessary arrangements to prevent this from happening.

 

[mistoffolees]

yes. The mother is trying to do the right thing so she doesn't lose her children.
She will make the necessary arrangements to prevent this from happening.

Then she should be working on getting the kids sleeping in their own rooms. It won't have any bearing on custody, but everyone will be better off in their own space.

 

[Zigner]

OP - who - are - you - in - this - scenario?

 

[Aquariusfire]

The grandmother

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

What is happening in the children's lives right now that they feel their only safe place is with mom?

Now, I'm a firm believer in "family" bed, but only to a certain point. I can see the very little ones. If an older child has the occasional need to snuggle up cuz of whatever is happening, I don't kick 'em out either. But, we work on getting them back to their space - maybe not that night, but then the next.

 

[Aquariusfire]

There are issues about the divorce, the move etc, but we're are getting them help with working out those issues. The 4-year-old has a sever abandonment issue that we are working out. The 8-year-old with autism is having trouble adjusting to the public schools and we're trying to make the ISD work with us to help him. He's the one who ends up in my room most of the time because of nightmares of school and the school mates.

 

[Zigner]

There are issues about the divorce, the move etc, but we're are getting them help with working out those issues. The 4-year-old has a sever abandonment issue that we are working out. The 8-year-old with autism is having trouble adjusting to the public schools and we're trying to make the ISD work with us to help him. He's the one who ends up in my room most of the time because of nightmares of school and the school mates.

I have to say that I totally misinterpreted the reason for your question.

I don't see anything wrong with what you have described. Is *somebody* raising an issue about the sleeping arrangements?

 

[mistoffolees]

II don't see anything wrong with what you have described.

I don't see anything WRONG with it, but the older kids are nearly pre-teens. Time for them to be able to sleep in their own rooms.

 

[Zigner]

I don't see anything WRONG with it, but the older kids are nearly pre-teens. Time for them to be able to sleep in their own rooms.

10 is not too old to seek comfort in the adult's room. Not ALL the time...but occasionally.

 

[Aquariusfire]

The way a social worker from Outreach who is supposed to look into resources for us about the two older boys was asking questions about, we wanted to make sure we weren't doing anything illegal. Thanks to everyone who responsed.

 

[mistoffolees]

10 is not too old to seek comfort in the adult's room. Not ALL the time...but occasionally.

Sounds to me like it's a frequent occurrence - if I'm reading OP correctly, it is now the norm.