slight changes in visitation

[munchkinsdd]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? michigan

I have a 2 yr old son with my ex gf. I currently have our son EOW (extended with a thursday pick up) and every other wednesday for 3 hrs. My sons mother still lives with her parents and she is having difficulties with her parents. Her mother is currently watching our son while she is at work. Since these problems have risen and I am currently not working she is asking me to take our son daily while she is at work. Which is not a problem I am just wondering with this new arrangement should I let Friend of the Court know? Should I wait for a certain amount of time to make sure this is going to be something we will do as long as I am out of work? I have my own home and everything is here to take care of him.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? michigan

I have a 2 yr old son with my ex gf. I currently have our son EOW (extended with a thursday pick up) and every other wednesday for 3 hrs. My sons mother still lives with her parents and she is having difficulties with her parents. Her mother is currently watching our son while she is at work. Since these problems have risen and I am currently not working she is asking me to take our son daily while she is at work. Which is not a problem I am just wondering with this new arrangement should I let Friend of the Court know? Should I wait for a certain amount of time to make sure this is going to be something we will do as long as I am out of work? I have my own home and everything is here to take care of him.

Why do you want to let the FOC know? What would be the purpose?

 

[munchkinsdd]

Visitation has changed so much since the order of affiliation was set in June of 2008. I would think that this kind of stuff needs to be mentioned in case my sons mother changes her mind after say 6 months to a year of the new arrangements. I just don't want to keep changing things. Yes I do want more time with my son and no the child support that I still pay on time and regularly doesn't matter. She has gone from regular standard NCP visitation to more then to less then back to more all in 1.5 yrs. Its getting so inconsistent.

 

[LdiJ]

Visitation has changed so much since the order of affiliation was set in June of 2008. I would think that this kind of stuff needs to be mentioned in case my sons mother changes her mind after say 6 months to a year of the new arrangements. I just don't want to keep changing things. Yes I do want more time with my son and no the child support that I still pay on time and regularly doesn't matter. She has gone from regular standard NCP visitation to more then to less then back to more all in 1.5 yrs. Its getting so inconsistent.

I understand what you are saying, but letting the FOC know won't help you in that respect.

Obviously, things are going to change again because you cannot be without work forever. So its kind of foolish for you to be looking at this particular arrangement as a long term arrangement.

Its actually good that you and the mother have been flexible with each other to make changes as your work schedules etc. evolve/change, and good that you are adapting.

 

[happybug]

Do you plan on being unemployed forever?

 

[munchkinsdd]

I am disabled and have been prior my our sons birth. I will know if I am going to be permanently disabled to work next month. So for now I am looking for this to be long term. I just don't think it is in our sons best interest to keep changing because what is happening at the moment is "not good" for his mother. When I wanted more time she wouldnt let it happen but now that she is not comfortable with her mother raising our son its okay to change. Our son has a hard time adapting to frequent changes. It really takes him time to adjust.

 

[LdiJ]

I am disabled and have been prior my our sons birth. I will know if I am going to be permanently disabled to work next month. So for now I am looking for this to be long term. I just don't think it is in our sons best interest to keep changing because what is happening at the moment is "not good" for his mother. When I wanted more time she wouldnt let it happen but now that she is not comfortable with her mother raising our son its okay to change. Our son has a hard time adapting to frequent changes. It really takes him time to adjust.

If you actually get permanent disability then come back and talk to us again. Until then, its a temporary arrangement.

 

[munchkinsdd]

I will do that thanks.